Wrong Place, Wrong Time

It was senior year. I was top of my class at the time and I was bullied, severely. I remember looking around and seeing I was the only black person in my class. From experience, racism is not okay. The class bully was Malaysian and everyday I had to, sit down and hear her, we will call her Sally. Sally would harrass me, cyberbully, gossip, and initiate physical altercations. Things were blatant when I worked with different ethnicities during major projects. Everything in the book. One night after directing Prom Committee, three men were waiting to leave me with permanent regret. Sally initiated actual gang violence towards me.

I was not strong enough.

The next day in school. All three were expelled and Sally continued to be a bully. My preparator went to prison. But I got pregnant. I never aborted the child be it he/she but instead Sally still laughed. I miscarried in the school bathroom and at home.

Psychologically, I kept quiet for a year. 

Men, women, minors. Social media is a thing of the past. I did the right and told a trusted police officer then principal. Your body is your body. Regardless of race, religion, gender, and background learn to say no.

Today I ask God why it happened to me and I am fair, pick people you trust during good and bad. I was a virgin as a virgin was. He is We is the type take to heart. Bullies only see what you do not have and as for the internet, be careful. 

Now I can decide, law school. Where is Sally?


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22 comments

  1. Jess Volunteer

    I am so sorry that this happened to you. You didn’t deserve to get picked on that way, and you didn’t deserve to be assaulted. It’s amazing that you reported what happened. That takes so much strength and bravery, and I’m so glad to hear that you received the justice you deserved. Keep fighting the good fight! If that means becoming a lawyer, that’s awesome. Advocates are always necessary and we definitely need more people like you in that world. <3

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. If there is any way we can further help you, please let us now. We are always here and we believe you. Stay strong and keep fighting. <3
    -Jess

  2. kelly Day Captain

    Hi, heureseestelle. I’m so sorry that happened to you. You did not deserve any of it. I think you are very brave for reporting it and I’m so happy you were able to get the justice you deserve. That’s so great you are in or considering law school! We need more advocates like you. Please let us know if there’s anything we can do to help.

  3. music2799 Day Captain

    Hi heureseestelle,
    I’m truly sorry about what you’ve been through. You didn’t deserve any of this at all, and none of it was your fault. You’re right – bullying and racism aren’t okay at all – and they should not have treated you with such disrespect.
    It’s not easy to report, and I’m proud of you for having the courage to do so. I’m also so proud because you’re going into law school. That’s an amazing accomplishment, and I wish you luck.
    Thank you for trusting us with your story. It takes bravery to share these experiences. If you ever need anything, please don’t hesitate to write back. We’re here to support you in any way we can.

  4. Bluebell13 Volunteer

    Dear heureseestelle ,
    Thank you for trusting us with your story. I am so sorry that you have had to experience these types of injustice. You are incredibly brave and strong and you are using your experiences to make a difference. We are here to listen and support you. Please come back and post as often as you would like and let us know if we can help in any way.
    Sending you love and strength,
    Roxie

  5. Gamato04 Volunteer

    Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry this happened and you by no means deserved it. You are incredibly strong for pushing through, going through the criminal justice system, and finding the path right for you. Good luck with law school by the way! You’ll be great!

  6. Kailey2298 Volunteer

    Hi heureseestelle,
    Thank you so much for sharing your story! I’m sorry you had to go through this and that they did all these horrible things to you. You are so strong and brave and you will go so far! If we can help you in any way please let us know!
    Kailey

  7. Deanna Volunteer

    hi there-

    That’s for sharing your story. It takes a lot of courage and even more to come forward. I wish I knew the reason why anyone goes through such awful trauma but it sounds it may have shaped you in a meaningful way. One of my favorite quotes is, “strength of character is tempered on the anvil of adversity.”
    I hope you make a difference in your profession! How far are you in to law school?

    Deanna

  8. daisychains8891 Volunteer

    Heureseestelle,
    You’re so courageous for reaching out and sharing your story, and I’m so proud of you for it. Your so strong having been through all this. Your body is your body and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I know you have the strength to continue to fight through this. On a side note, being top of your class is amazing and you inspire me. Please continue to reach out to all of us and update us on your progress.
    All my love and support,
    Leah

  9. andyspringer Volunteer

    heureseestelle,

    First and foremost I would like to thank you for sharing your story with us. By this courageous act, I hope you get a sort of cathartic release; but I also hope you know that your bravery in telling your story has paved the way for many, many others just like yourself- enabling them and giving them the strength to tell their own story. Thank you.

    I am so very sorry for everything that has happened to you. Absolutely none of it was your fault. I wish you nothing but good tidings and wellness on your road to healing. We are all here with you. You are believed and safe here.

    Warmest regards,

    Andy

  10. Ashley Day Captain

    heureseestelle,

    Thank you for making the courageous decision to share your story with our community.

    The fact that you were the top student in your class is admirable. Since Sally found several ways to bring you down, it sounds like it was difficult to catch a break from her. You have the right to be treated with respect. In regards to the child, I’m sorry for your loss.

    For your future endeavors, I wish you nothing but the best!

  11. zoeyb

    I am so sorry that you had to go through all of this- you are so much stronger than your bullies. I am glad you found us and were able to voice yourself and your story- keeping all that locked away must have been extremely hard on you. I hope you continue to put yourself first and do what you think is best on your path towards healing. We are always here to listen whenever you need us!

    – Zoey

  12. Brianna W Volunteer Volunteer

    I am so sorry that this happened to you. You are so strong and brave and I am proud of you. It takes a lot of courage to tell you story/to report it. You are completely right, your body is your body and everyone should respect your boundaries. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help, we will always be here. Stay strong and keep up your fight.

    -Brianna

  13. Megan Volunteer

    Hey heureseestelle,

    I’m sorry that this happened to you. You deserve to be treated so much better. Bullying and racism are awful and it’s sad that both of these things continue to be prevalent in our society. You are so strong for making it through all of this. The fact that you are going to law school despite everything is AMAZING. You truly are an inspiration.

    Keep being you,
    Megan

  14. Brianna W Volunteer Volunteer

    I am so sorry that this happened to you. You are so strong and brave and I am proud of you. It takes a lot of courage to tell you story/to report it. You are completely right, your body is your body and everyone should respect your boundaries. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help, we will always be here. Stay strong and keep up your fight.

    -Brianan

  15. blashea

    Hi, I am so sorry that this happened to you. You are so strong and brave and I am proud of you. It takes a lot of courage to tell you story/to report it. You are completely right, your body is your body and everyone should respect your boundaries. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help!

  16. Natalie M Day Captain

    Hi there,

    Thank you for coming here to share your story with us. We know that is not easy to do, and I want to thank you for trusting us. I am so sorry that this happened you to. You are right, your body is your body. You did not deserve what happened to you. You are amazing for continuing to live throughout what happened. You are stronger than Sally! You an inspiration! We are proud of your for speaking up and doing the right thing, even in the toughest of times. You are doing something fantastic with your life. What happened to you does not define you, but it might make you a little stronger today! Know we are here for you and we are on your side always! Stay strong.

    -Natalie

  17. Lizzi G Volunteer

    Hi heureseestelle,
    I’m so sorry for what you went through. Bullying and racism are never okay, and it’s not right that you had to go through that. It makes me sick thinking that someone would actually organize gang violence that would hurt you so badly. I can’t even imagine what kind of person could do that. Everything you went through had to be so difficult, and I’m really proud of you for speaking up. I don’t know why this had to happen to you, as it really shouldn’t ever happen to anyone. It seems like you’ve got a great future ahead and I’m so happy for you. You’re going to do great things.

    Much hope,
    Lizzi

  18. Northlane1991 Volunteer

    I am so sorry this had happened to you. Bullying and Racism are never okay. I am glad that the police were able to help you. You are a strong and brave person. Thank you for sharing your story and please feel free to post again when you need to.

  19. candyappleb Volunteer

    I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve experienced those things. Bullying and racism are never okay. What Sally did by initiating the gang violence was not okay. I’m so glad that you were able to go to the police. You’re a very brave and strong person. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Please feel free to post again anytime you need to. We’re here for you.

    Becca

  20. CarmenR Volunteer

    Hi there,

    I am so sorry for what you have gone through. You didn’t deserve any of it. You are right that racism is not okay, and that you shouldn’t have had to endure this bullying. Your body is yours, and I’m glad you had a trusted officer that you could turn to. It sounds like you have a great head on your shoulders, and that you will do incredible things in law school. Stay strong. We are here for you, and do not hesitate to let us know if there is anything you need.

    Carmen

  21. Erin O'Callaghan Day Captain

    I am so sorry for everything that happened to you. You didn’t deserve it, and it wasn’t your fault. I am glad it seems that you want to go to law school-that’s great! Is there anything else we can do to help you? Let us know- we are here for you.

    Erin

  22. Thomas Volunteer

    Hi heureseestelle,

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am so sorry that this happened to you. Racism and bullying are never okay, and it is tragic how those horrible things can often invoke the abuse committed by those men. None of this was your fault, this is all on those men. You deserve to be treated with compassion and respect. Sally’s behavior in all of this is also compeltely unacceptable. I think it speaks to your strength and resiliance that you have perservered through all of this. And now you’re considering law school? That’s incredible! We believe you and we are here for you. Please let us know what else we can do to help you. Stay strong!

    Thomas