So a couple days ago I posted my story titled “My Story;” I have some updates. Not such a good one but I’m going to be okay thanks to the support I’ve gotten for you guys.

Today I had to make the hardest decision in my life….. I either had to drop charges or sit and listen why the DA wouldn’t pick up the case. I chose to drop the case. Not only because I was already told by my detective that the case probably wasn’t going any further because of the information HE had given him, but because my mental state was on the line. Every time I got a phone call I’d get jumpy and anxious thinking it was HIM trying to get ahold of me or police with information I just couldn’t handle the stress. Not only that having to testify against him and see him again in court would trigger me on so many levels.

I chose myself this time. I know he knows he got caught he lied his way out of it like he always did and always will. He might’ve won that, but he didn’t win me. I won. I won this I survive sexual assault. I will not let this define me and I will move forward from this and I will fight for anyone that’s been in my shoes. Till I breath my very last breath I will be here for any of you that need me.

Through this journey I’ve learned a lot about myself. Not only do I half self love but self respect and not matter what NO will always me no. I also learned my true calling. I’ve always wanted to be a music producer but throughout this I want to help those like myself and a lot of you guys. I’m not sure if I want to be a family advocate or therapist but I now what my true calling is, and the ironic thing is I’m happy.

So from the bottom of my heart I truly thank you to the many that have reached out to me. It truly means a lot it really truly does

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  1. jamie

    I am sorry to hear of the results of your case, but I am so thrilled to hear that you have peace with it. That’s so important. You’re absolutely right…he didn’t win you. You won.

    Thank you so much for the update. I am glad you’re with us.

  2. Jacqui

    I am so glad to hear from you!
    That is such good news. You are the most important one in your life. I am so incredibly happy that you have learned from this situation and that you are taking care of yourself. That is so so important.

  3. Marissa Day Captain

    I’m so happy to hear that you’re doing so well! For many, it takes a long time to come to terms with their situations, and it makes me so happy to hear how strong you are. It’s amazing that you chose yourself. You’re right–you won. And he can never take that from you.

    Keep doin’ you, you’re incredible!!

  4. hugzandkissez89

    You are so brave for going through what you did but also for taking care of yourself.

  5. Kristen Eby

    HELL YES. I am so, so proud of you. Not necessarily for the decision to drop the case (we would support you regardless of your decision), but that you made a choice for YOU. That is amazing. You are amazing. Like I mentioned before, you got to decide what happened next; this is your story. I think your decision to put your needs first is a great one.

    Thank you for updating us. We’re always here for you, and you can come back and talk more if you ever need to. We’re happy to have you in the community.

  6. hugzandkissez89

    Wow it takes a lot of courage to do what you did.
    I’m new to the site, but I just want to say I am proud of you and you should be so proud of yourself