hi, another update for you guys. so we have won all of our 5 games so far. we have 2 more games left of the season. i might be switching to fully remote learning. i feel like it would be better for myself. i also have a boyfriend. he knows about my flashbacks and helps me through them if i have one in front of him. he accepts me for who i am. he makes me very happy. that’s all i really have for this update, until next time


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  1. pinksky92 Volunteer

    Hi gynmasticslover,

    Thanks for the update. So glad to hear that things have been so positive for you! There is truly no better feeling than having a partner who accepts you and supports you. I am so glad that he is so understanding and helps you through your flashbacks. That is such great news. I hope that you continue to flourish! You deserve it very much!

  2. zelda Volunteer

    Thanks for sharing, gymnastics! It sounds like you are getting your life back. You’ve won all of your games; you’re finishing out school; you have a new boyfriend! I’m happy for you. Hope you and your family have a great Thanksgiving. Eat plenty of turkey (or honey-glazed ham, if you’re anything like me)!

  3. Solongago Volunteer

    Congratulations on the games you have won with your team. It sounds like a good place for connecting with teammates, etc. That is good. Have you thought whether remote learning would be better or easier for yourself?

    I am concerned that when we have had a bad experience, sometimes we avoid further bad experiences by isolating ourselves, and that may be easier, but not better for us. Being a teenager is hard, and going through the process of dealing with many different people is daunting. But it does get easier as you mature.

    There are lessons we learn growing up that are much easier when we are young to navigate through, like learning to walk at the appropriate time. If we have to try to learn those things later it becomes harder because in the case of walking, we haven’t built up the right muscles and falling hurts more, and we are less open to trying new things. But walking is not the problem, it is just that a lot of things are easier to figure out and trying to figure them out later is more of a challenge. Like when you fall off a horse, often the advice is to get right back up there and try again, because otherwise you can become afraid of riding and the more time that passes, the harder it is to try again.

    I am concerned more about what learning you will miss out on, like making and breaking relationships — stuff that isn’t in the books, if you go remote. There is another thing too. Some of us are shy people, naturally, and some become avoidant of other people. We generally keep our inner circle small. In doing so, we tend to rely too heavily on 1-2 people and can push people away or make unhealthy attachments. If we can expand that circle, we can find that some friends can help us for some things, and other friends for other things and no on is over-taxed. Just a thought.

    Good luck on your final two games.

  4. almax Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for sharing this update! It’s really great to hear that you won your five games so far and that your boyfriend helps you through your flashbacks. Wishing you tons of luck on your games to come and with your relationship too!

  5. yailinrenteria Volunteer

    Hey gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for continuing to share your updates. I am glad that you guys have won all of your games so far. That is a great achievement. I wish you luck on the last 2 games left of the season. I am glad you are looking at remote learning through a positive lens. I am also extremely glad that you have found someone who is there for you, helps you through your flashbacks, and makes you happy. Keep updating us.
    Best of luck,
    Yailin

  6. delvecchis1 Volunteer

    Thank you for the update! All of these sound like amazingly positive things and I hope it all continues to go well for you!

    Best of luck transitioning to remote learning if you decide to .

  7. brookeallnutt Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Congrats on your winning streak, and I hope the rest of your games go well. I’m so glad that your boyfriend is supportive, and I wish you two the best! I look forward to your next update!

  8. Elvia29 Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for coming back and updating us. I am glad to hear you won all five games. Good luck with your last two games. I hope you guys win. I am happy to hear you have a boyfriend and that he helps you through your flashbacks. It’s great to hear he accepts you for who you are and makes you happy. We look forward to hearing from you again.
    Take care,
    Elvia

  9. jcas120 Volunteer

    Hello gymnasticslover,

    I’m very happy to see this positive update! You’ve done a lot of great work and it seems like you are enjoying the benefits of that hard work. Its great that you won all 5 of your games so far! That’s a great accomplishment. I’m also happy to hear about your boyfriend, and that he makes you happy and accepts you for who you are. It’s really great to see things looking bright for you! We are always here for you if you ever want to come back and share more with us.

  10. snandi2 Volunteer

    Hey gymnasticslover,
    Congrats on winning your games so far! As a student who’s doing remote learning right now, I can definitely say that it has its ups and downs. Some positives are that you have more time to do things you like and you can wake up like 5 minutes before class starts, but I’ve found that remote learning involves have a bit more organization because deadlines seem to come up really fast. Additionally, going to office hours and asking your teachers questions after class is easier now. I’m glad that your boyfriend accepts you for who you are and makes you happy. Good luck with the two games you have left and feel free to come back here anytime to talk about what’s happening in your life!

  11. KatherineL Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thanks for coming back to update us! Online/remote learning may be best given the covid-19 risk. I have been teaching fully online this year (college, though) and I’m finding that some students enjoy online learning better! I hope it’s a smooth transition for you.

    That’s great regarding your boyfriend. An accepting and understanding partner is so important. I am glad you found someone you can trust and who is supportive.

    KatherineL

  12. AlisonDKaufman

    Hello:

    CONGRATULATIONS on everything; the games and your new boyfriend. It is so important to have someone in our life who understands, accepts us for who we are, and especially is able to help us through the hard times. I am truly so very happy for you!

    Keep going strong in your season!

  13. musicislove

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for the update and congratulations on winning five games so far! Hopefully if you move into remote learning the transition is smooth, it’s good that you know how you feel and that it feels better to you. I’m glad your boyfriend makes you so happy and that he’s understanding with you and your flashbacks. I’m sorry you’re still having them but I’m happy he helps you through them. Good luck with your two games and I hope you have a good week. Come back anytime, we’re always here for you!

    Delaney

  14. ZJC9753 Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Great to hear from you again! Wow, it sounds like you have some fun and good things happening! How fun that your team has won the five games so far, I’m sure your team will do great at the next two games too. It’s great that you can recognize what kind of learning is best for you especially in such stressful times, that takes some self reflection skills! I am happy that you are with somebody who is supportive and accepting, you absolutely deserve happiness and support at a minimum. Thank you so much for the update, please continue to update us whenever you would like!

  15. alexiswilliams

    Gymnasticslover,

    Congrats on your winning streak. Im sorry to hear about your flashbacks. Its great that your boyfriend is able to help you through them.

    Sending healing,
    Lex

  16. Neesha Volunteer

    Hi Gymnasticslover,
    How wonderful that the games are going so well! I hope if you do switch to remote learning, it works out well for you. It is a rare and joyous thing to find someone who can and is willing to help us through difficult and painful events. It sounds like he is a supportive and understanding man. Thank you for the update!

  17. mikaylaanne11 Volunteer

    Hey again gymnasticslover!

    Congrats on your games! Hopefully you have an undefeated season 🙂 The remote/in-person learning situations this year have been so weird, especially since I’ve gotten to hear from friends who are students and friends who are teachers. I agree that going to fully remote might be helpful for you! It’ll hopefully give you a feeling of consistency rather than worrying about whether or not you’ll have in-person classes. I’m glad to hear about your boyfriend, also! He seems like a very understanding person for supporting you through flashbacks that he might not understand. That’s always an incredible trait to have in a partner. Keep us updated, and stay safe!

  18. Breanna Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thanks for coming back with another update. I am happy to hear that things seem positive overall and that your boyfriend is being supportive of you. Keep your chin up!

    Sending love and support,
    Bre

  19. music2799 Day Captain

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    Congratulations on winning the five games you’ve had so far, and good luck on the last two games! I’m glad you’re thinking about what makes you feel better, and I hope remote learning helps you. It’s awesome that you have a supportive boyfriend who accepts you. That can be so helpful as you’re healing.
    Thank you for updating us. It sounds like you’re doing well, which is great. We’re here for you, so please write back whenever you like!

  20. ryannlashea Volunteer

    hi, thank you so much for the update. I’m so glad to hear that you are supported and happy. I hope remote learning goes well for you. congratulations on winning and doing so well this season!

  21. Bluebell13 Volunteer

    Dear gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for coming back to give us an update. It sounds like things are going well for you and you are doing things to take care of yourself. Congrats on winning your games!
    Sending you love and strength,
    Roxie

  22. e.almaguer Volunteer

    Hello!! I am so happy to hear things are looking great for you! Come back for another update!! & GOOD LUCK

  23. Starling Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for continuing to share your story with us. I’m so glad that things are going well for you. It’s great that you have someone that supports you like your boyfriend does. I wish you luck on your upcoming games! If you ever need anything, let us know. We’re always here for you.

  24. Rustin Day Captain

    Hi gymnasticslover!

    Congratulations on winning 5 games! I’ll keep my fingers crossed for the next two! As far as school goes, do whatever you believe will be best for you. I’ve done in person and I’ve done remote. It’s all about utilizing what option is best for you at the time depending on everything else that is going on. I’m happy you’ve found an individual that is patient and willing to accept you for who you are! Thank you for sharing this great update with us!

    -Rustin

  25. jlanderos16 Volunteer

    Hey Gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for coming back to AVFTI and giving us an update about yourself! Congrats on winning 5 games so far, keep it up so you guys could win the other 2 games!!!! I’m happy how your boyfriend is helping you out and just you overall feeling comfortable talking about your flashbacks with him, thats a big step and I’m proud of you! Please come back and give us an update! Be safe and Careful!

  26. rachelb098 Volunteer

    Hi there,

    We appreciate your update. Congrats on all those wins that’s incredible! I’m so glad to hear you found someone who makes you happy, that’s truly wonderful news. You deserve to feel cared for and supported. We look forward to hearing from you again and I hope you find that switch to fully remote learning to be successful. Have an amazing week!

    -Rachel

  27. CarmenR Volunteer

    Hi there gymnasticslover,

    That is so exciting you have won all of your games! I hope you win these last two as well. Good luck! I’m glad you have a boyfriend who is supportive and caring. Thank you for updating us!

    Carmen

  28. sfmbelle413 Day Captain

    Hey there gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for sharing the update – congratulations on winning all five of your games! I’m glad to hear remote learning might be better for yourself – it sounds like that could be comforting for you. It’s also great to hear about your boyfriend who is supporting you through the flashbacks. It sounds like a lot is going well now, and that makes me happy for you!

    Sending light your way,
    SFM

  29. cindy024 Volunteer

    Hi, gymnasticslover,
    First of all, thank you for sharing your update with us! That us super good that you guys have won a lot so far! That is so good that you have a boyfriend that helps you and loves you!! We are super proud of you! you are a strong individual!!

  30. meg Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover!

    Thank you for taking time to update us! I am so glad to hear that you’re finding solutions to have the best situation for learning. I am so glad to know that your boyfriend is supportive of you as well. What coping and grounding skills do you use if you have a flashback and they aren’t there? Do you journal or use breathing exercises? I’m proud of how far you’ve come! Keep us updated on how things are going.

    -Meg

  31. jao1820 Volunteer

    Hey Gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for updating us! Its great to hear that your team is doing so well this season. I hope you guys are able to play your best in the last two games of the season! I understand that the transition may be hard, but i hope switching to fully remote learning goes well. Thats great to have a boyfriend who is so understanding and supportive. I hope everything continues going well for you, until next time.

    – J.A.O.

  32. Mary Ella Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover, it’s great to hear from you again! I am glad that you are doing well and that you have a boyfriend who has been supportive and accepting. Congratulations on the 5 wins! We are proud of you, and we hope to hear from you again soon. So glad you’re happy! You deserve it!

  33. aegardiner Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    We always love to hear when our storytellers have positive updates. That’s so awesome about the winning season – good luck with the last 2 games! I hope that the remote learning goes well. I’m glad that you have a supportive boyfriend and that he helps you through the flashbacks. The fact that you feel like you trust him with something so personal is a big deal and you deserve to be happy. I hope things continue to go well and that we hear from you again soon.

  34. sarahj Volunteer

    Hey gymnasticslover,

    Really enjoyed reading this update, thanks for sharing. Looks like your team is doing quite well this year! I know school has been a little wonky this year and last — it seems the closer we get to the holidays, the more we hear about remote learning again. I’m glad to hear you find remote learning as a positive and in some ways.. I can agree with you. As long as you stay motivated, that is! 🙂 I think it is wonderful that you have a boyfriend who supports you and helps you work through your experience. You are a brave soul, working through trauma/sexual assault is not for the faint of heart. Keep up the good work and I hope you continue to feel the love and support around you. Feel free to update us soon!!

    Stay positive,
    Sarah

  35. haesol Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for the update. Congratulations on winning the games! I wish you the best of luck for the upcoming ones. It’s really nice to hear your boyfriend accepts you and helps you deal with the flashbacks, I hope he’s good to you and treats you well as you deserve.

    Don’t hesitate to update us anytime you want! Stay safe.

  36. eagle206 Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for coming back with an update. So glad to hear that your season is going well and that you met someone! I hope he continues to be respectful, as you deserve to be treated well. Hope things keep going well for you, we are always here to chat.

    Stay strong,

    T

  37. Amysue43 Volunteer

    Thank you for comign back to update us! It’s good news to hear that you’re doing well and that things are falling into place. I’m glad you found someone who can be there for you and knows how to support you in those times when a flashback arises.
    Stay strong <3

  38. Ruby98 Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticlsover,
    Happy to hear from you again thank you for sharing this update with us! congratulations on your recent wins, I wish you many more wins to come. If you feel that remote learning is better for you than definitely follow through with that. i’m happy your boyfriend is able to help you when you have flashbacks, it’s always great to have a supportive partner that is there for you. I’m happy you are happy and I hope you find yourself having a good week stay safe and take care ,until next time! 🙂

  39. Ashley Day Captain

    gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for coming back to let us know how things have been going.
    How exciting that every game has been won! Hopefully, the upcoming games will be won.
    If you believe that remote learning would be the best option for you, I support that.
    You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who makes you feel cared for and supported. I’m thinking it’s comforting to have his help to work through the flashbacks.

    Ashley

  40. Erin O'Callaghan Day Captain

    Thank you for sharing this update with us! I’m glad that things are going much better, and that you have a supportive partner. You deserve that. Come back and share anytime!

    Erin

  41. Marissa Day Captain

    Hey gymnasticslover,

    Thanks for the update. Congratulations on your undefeated streak! That’s so exciting. I hope you do switch to fully remote learning. You know yourself better than anyone else, so if that’s what best for you, that’s what I’m hoping for! I’m glad your boyfriend is supportive and accepts you for who you are. You deserve happiness and I’m so glad you are finally getting that. Let us know if there’s anything we can do for you. We are here for you, no matter what!

    Marissa

  42. Lex Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for sharing an update with us. I am happy to hear that you have won all 5 of your games, how exciting! Good luck with the rest! I am glad that your boyfriend has been understanding and helpful towards you when you experience flashbacks. It is so important to be with someone who accepts you, for you and makes you happy.

    Wishing you all the best. We are here for you, always!
    – Lex

  43. Ochoa Volunteer

    Hey gymnasticslover,
    Thanks for the update, and congrats on the wins! I’m glad you found someone is understanding of your flashbacks and is willing to help. Hope everything continues to go good. Looking forward to hearing from you soon. Stay strong.

  44. lizzi

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    Thank you so much for sharing this update with us! It sounds like things are going really well, and you have so many positive things going on. That’s really great about all the games you’ve won, and I hope the last two are wins as well! I’m glad to hear that your boyfriend is really supportive and can help you through your flashbacks. It sounds like he’s a great person that you can trust, and I’m happy for you. Keep us updated and I hope things continue to go as well as they are now

  45. pinksky92 Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    I am so glad that you have a boyfriend who is supportive of you and who accepts you for who you are. It is quite a challenge to be struggling alone, especially when those closest to you may not be particularly accepting. So, it definitely helps that you have someone in your life who makes you happy and helps you through the tough times. This is such wonderful news and will undoubtedly help you to cope day-to-day. Having a strong support system is beyond helpful. I am so glad that you shared this with us.

    Take care.

  46. candyappleb Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for the update! I’m so glad to hear that you are doing well. Your boyfriend sounds very supportive. Good luck on your last two games of the season and transitioning to full remote learning. We’re always happy to hear from you. Please feel free to update us again anytime.

    All the best,
    Becca

  47. ajklessig Volunteer

    Hello gymnasticslover,
    That is fantastic! Good luck with your remaining two games; it sounds like your team will kill it.
    I am glad that you have been thinking about what is best for you and what might help you succeed! Remote learning is really common these days due to COVID, so I am sure the transition will be very smooth for your classes. I know it benefits a lot of people and I think in your circumstances, it would be beneficial for you too. I remember in the last post you mentioned that you were afraid of seeing him at any time, and remote learning would help to reduce that possibility which is great! I am glad to hear about your boyfriend! It is great that you felt comfortable enough to confide in him and that he is accepting. That is so important in a relationship! I look forward to hearing updates from you again!

  48. adrian Volunteer

    Hey, gymnasticslover-

    So excited to hear your team has been just crushing it at your games! Good luck to you and them for your last two games!
    It’s positive that your boyfriend is helping you through flashbacks and is accepting of them. It is truly helpful to have support like that when you’re working through your trauma and healing from it. Thanks again for trusting us here with your story- it is positive to see you return and share with us your progress. Others certainly glean hope from it! Keep fighting the good fight-

    Take care,
    Adrian

  49. Alyssa Day Captain

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    I’m so happy for you! Thank you for updating us! I’m glad your boyfriend helps you and understands. That sounds like a very health and open relationship, which is great! Hopefully if you switch to remote learning it will help. I know when I was doing remote learning last March it really helped me too. Congrats on winning! You have a great team. Thank you again for the update. It is great to hear from you. I hope things continue to go well!
    -Alyssa