we won our first 2 games. i have another game on friday. school is so stressful at the moment. i failed both of my geography quizzes, and all of my teachers give me a load of work for each week. i have so much going on and the teachers know nothing about it. but i like therapy. i love my therapist. she has this bubbly personality that i love about her. she is really helping me get through my flashbacks. my mom was thinking about getting me hypnotized to help with the flashbacks. he wouldn’t have the control he does on me anymore even though he physically isn’t doing anything to me. it’s hard though because even though i switched to private school, he still lives 3 minutes from me. it scares me that i can see him at any given point of time and not know why to do about it. but that’s all for the update for now. i will updating soon


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  1. rohina_kumar Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you so much for coming back on here with another update! Congratulations on your first two wins!! You should be so proud of yourself. I’m so sorry school doesn’t seem to be going all that well for you, but I’m so so glad that you’re enjoying therapy and that it is actually helping you process your flashbacks in a healthier manner. I hear you when you say that it scares you to see him at any given point in time and you’re entitled to your feelings. I’d recommend discussing this with your therapist, so you’d be able to minimize your fear of him as much as possible. At least switching schools means that you don’t have to see him that often. I advise you to hang in there and continue with therapy. Be kind to yourself and make as much effort as you possibly can into bettering yourself and your mental health, so you can become the best version of yourself. Soon, you’d be able to confront him with no fear whatsoever and show that YOU won. Always remember, slow and steady wins the race. We’d love to hear another update from you soon. You always have our support! All the love.

    – Rohina

  2. eagle206 Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for coming back with an update. Congratulations on winning the first 2 games. It’s so nice to hear that you and your therapist have a strong relationship. It’s frustrating that he still lives so close but I hope with the new school you don’t see him very often. Maybe mention this to your therapist and see if she has any strategies for working through that fear. Keep working on everything, you got this!

    Stay strong,

    Tyler

  3. tbird830 Volunteer

    Gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for the update! Great job on winning your first two games, that’s super exciting! School right now is so strange and different for so many people, and with all that you’ve had going on, it’s understandable if you’re having a hard time. There’s plenty of time to turn it around, so try not to let that get to you too much. It’s great to hear that you’ve connected with a therapist that you really like. I’m sure that she would be happy to help you come up with a plan for if you do run into your abuser. It can help ease the worry and fear around that if you have a plan set ahead of time. I look forward to your next update!

    Tori

  4. rachelb098 Volunteer

    Hi there,
    Congrats on winning the games! I’m hearing you’ve been having a hard time at school lately, but with everything that’s been going it’s completely understandable so don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s wonderful to hear that you’ve found a therapist you can connect too and that you’ve been making progress. Thank you for the update, and as always don’t hesitate to reach out again!

    All the best,
    -Rachel

  5. Starling Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for continuing to share your story with us. I’m sorry that you school has been difficult lately, and that you are still so close to him. It must be upsetting to have to worry about running into him again. I’m glad that you found a therapist that you like and connect well with though! That can be really hard sometimes, so it’s great that you were able to find that. If you ever need anything, let us know. We’re always here for you.

  6. dzreid Volunteer

    Hi there!
    To be able to find a good therapist, & one you can connect with is a hard thing to do. I am so glad you have found one! Maybe you & her can make a safety plan as to what to do in case you run into your abuser. Sometimes, we can do all the preparing for situations like yours , but when faced with the actual problem, we tend to become paralyzed. It’s too bad though that you are faced with increased anxiety, & being reminded of what happened. I would take one step at a time. If you feel hypnosis might help you, then discuss that with your therapist, but if you decide, then do so because you want to not because anyone else wants it for you. There are other ways as well that can be applied to help deal with flashbacks. You are entitled to experience any & all these feelings, & every one is part of healing. I’m happy that you won 2 games. Is there any way you can talk to your teacher about making up the quizzes,? or maybe they can offer suggestions on how to better prepare (what kind of notes to take, what highlights to watch for etc). It’s easy to have a distracted mind when under stress. do what you can to continue taking care of you. You deserve to be free!
    Dawn

  7. Elvia29 Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for the update, it’s great to hear from you again. Congratulations on winning your first two games. And good luck with your game on Friday hope you win. I’m sorry to hear school is stressful at the moment and that you fail both of your geography quizzes. Maybe you can ask your teacher for some extra credit to replace your quizzes. That’s really great that you like going to therapy and being able to connect with her. I can’t imagine how hard it is to live near him. Maybe you can come up with something in case you run into him. To prepare yourself. Hope to hear from you soon.
    Take care,
    Elvia

  8. jao1820 Volunteer

    Hey Gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for coming back and keeping us updated. Its great to hear that you won your games! Im sorry that school has been so stressful lately. Sometimes teachers dont consider that amount of work they assign in addition to other classes and assignments. Thats great that youre enjoying therapy and really connect with your therapist. It can be hard to find a therapist to communicate effectively with and form a great relationship like you have. I can only imagine how hard it must be to have him live near you, and the anxiety you experience from the thought of running into him again. Maybe you can talk to your therapist about it and create scenarios of running into him and produce solutions for each scenario. That way you could have a few ideas of what to do if you ever see him again. I look forward to hearing from you again!

    – J.A.O.

  9. caitlynmmiller Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    It’s so nice to hear from you again! I’m so sorry school has been stressful, but unfortunately, that’s what high school is. Freshman year can be a tough transition year as well since you have more expectations than you did in middle school. Your feelings and stress are 100% valid, don’t forget that !! I’m so glad you love your therapist too. It can take some people a while to warm up to a therapist if they’re even the right choice for that person, so I’m happy that you two have a good relationship. I’m sorry that he still lives by you. If things escalate, maybe you could look into a restraining order or moving if you have to. That may sound extreme right now, and it’s totally just me putting information out there, so please don’t think I’m telling you to do that haha. I can’t wait for your next update. Remember that we’re always here for you and you deserve all the love and happiness in the world!

    Caitlyn

  10. lizzi

    Hi gymansticslover,
    I’m sorry that school is so stressful. It’s hard to focus on things like school and homework when you’ve got so much going on in your life. I’m glad that you like your therapist and feel like that is going well! It’s so important to find a therapist that you feel comfortable with but also just like talking to, because if it’s not a good match it won’t be very productive. I can imagine it’s really hard to have him be that close to you, and I hope that with therapy and the support you have in your life that you can feel safe even with him a few minutes away. Please keep us updated and I hope things continue to go well!

    1. Ruby98 Volunteer

      Hi gymnasticslover,
      It’s great to hear again from you again, thank you for updating us. Congratulations on winning your first 2 games! I wish you best of luck on Friday! I completely understand how you feel in regards to school. It can truly be a workload but learning to balance is key. If you feel comfortable enough you should ask your teachers if they offer any extra credit opportunities to make up for those quizzes. I’m glad to hear that you like your therapist. I hope your therapist helps you heal and find peace in your heart and mind. Stay positive you got this!

  11. aegardiner Day Captain

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thanks for the update and congratulations on winning your games! That’s frustrating about school – some instructors really pile it on and that can be hard if more than one of them is doing it. Do you think it would be beneficial to talk with any of them and to let them know that you’ve been going through some personal issues that are causing you additional stress and impacting your ability to study? I have found that sometimes teachers can be understanding when we need them to be. That is really great about your therapist. It sounds like she’s making a big difference in your life. The fact that you enjoy therapy is a big deal! Have you talked to your therapist about being hypnotized? I don’t know the particulars of how that helps with releasing the feeling of control, but I think it’s definitely something to talk to her about and if she thinks it’s the best for you in light of how you’re currently doing. That’s upsetting to hear that you have to still see him in proximity to where you live and it’s understanding that you are scared and worried about him appearing at any time. I think you should definitely talk to your therapist about that and how you can best deal with the associated anxiety and the possibility of coming fact to face. That is not something that you want to have to process through on the fly. It sounds like you are taking care of yourself so keep it up! We look forward to hearing from you again soon!

  12. Mary Ella Day Captain

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Congratulations on winning your first two games! I’m sorry you’re having a hard time with school and you’re stressed. If you’d like, you could communicate with your teachers and let them know you’r having difficulty balancing your school work. Hopefully, they are understanding so this situation could be easier for you!

    I’m glad you have a therapist who you like! It took me a while to find one I was completely comfortable with, so I’m very happy for you.

    I’m sorry about him being so close to where you live. I understand that that can cause a lot of anxiety but I hope you could figure out a plan on the chance that you see him. Let us know if there is anything else we could help you with! We’d love to hear from you again.

  13. ajklessig Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for updating us! I am so glad that you won your first two games! That is fantastic! However, I am sorry that you feel stressed with school. It can be really hard to make adjustments and handle all the work as a freshman. However, through personal experience, I have found that teachers can be really understanding. You don’t have to tell them everything that is going on, but you can just express that you are dealing with a lot and it is hard to balance everything. They may have some guidance for you on how to manage it all. I know that it can be really intimidating to talk with them, but if you feel comfortable it could help relieve some of that stress.
    I am so glad that you love your therapist! It is so important to have that positive bond! I understand how fearful it can be to even think about seeing him around your neighborhood. As others have mentioned, you can develop certain plans with different people in case that ever happens! For instance, maybe you could talk to your mom about making sure that there is always someone to pick you up if that situation were to ever arise. Your therapist can also help with how to stay calm and mentally process any possible encounters. Please feel free to update us again. You got this!

  14. Amysue43 Volunteer

    Thank you for keeping us updated with your situation. It’s great that you are getting along with your therapist and are working hard at this journey. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through these things, and I’m sure there is additional stress with the school work you are concerned about. Even though he is only 3 minutes away and there is probability that you make see him out and about, you have done what you can to limit your interaction with him. Perhaps you can discuss a safety plan with your therapist for when a situation arises where you see him out in public.
    Stay strong <3

  15. Marissa Day Captain

    Hey gymnasticslover,

    Thanks for the update! I’m sorry things are so stressful for you. Are there any teachers you trust enough to clue them in on what you’re going through? You wouldn’t necessarily have to go into detail but it might help relieve a little pressure. Please only do that if you feel 100% comfortable doing so! Opening up before you’re ready could be detrimental to the healing process and I would hate for that to happen given how much progress you’ve made with your therapist. I can’t imagine how scary it is to have to worry about seeing your abuser. Have you mentioned that to your therapist? Maybe you could come up with a plan together for if you ever see him around. Please let us know if there’s anything we can do for you!! We are here for you, no matter what.

    Marissa

  16. Lex Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for sharing an update with us! Congratulations on winning your games, that must have been so exciting! I am sorry to hear that school has been stressful for you. Have you tried talking with your teachers or a school counsellor about this? They may be able to give you more time to complete your assignments. I know it can be difficult to open up about personal information with teachers and school authority, but many times they can be understanding. I am glad that you like your therapist and that she has been able to help you with your flashbacks!

    Please come back and share with us whenever you like!
    -Lex

  17. e.almaguer Volunteer

    Hello, I can total relate. I am going through something similar & I sometimes have trouble communicating if I am struggling But props to you for regardless of all these factors happening in your life you have not given up. It is admirable that you are even sharing this to us, so thank you for trusting & sharing with us.
    Come back to give us an update on how school is going for you this week!

  18. candyappleb Day Captain

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    I’m sorry that school is so overwhelming right now. Could you talk to your school counselor? Maybe they can communicate with your teachers and get some extended time for assignments given the circumstances. Might be worth checking into if it’s something you feel comfortable with. I am glad you enjoy your therapist! It’s often difficult to find a good match, but it sounds like she will help a lot. I’m also glad you were able to get away from your attacker by transferring to a different school. I understand how difficult it can be to see someone day after day when they have hurt you. Please feel free to share anymore updates with us. We’re always glad to hear from you. We support you!

    All the best,
    Becca

  19. pinksky92 Volunteer

    That is so great to hear that you love therapy and you love your therapist! For some people it takes them quite a while to find someone that they trust. A lot of the success of therapy has to do with the bond between the patient and the therapist – you seem to be on the right track! In terms of being stressed out about school: I think we all have a tendency to be hard on ourselves when things aren’t going so well. Unfortunately it may be hard to open up about your personal life, but it may be worth it to speak to some teachers or a guidance counsellor so that they are up to speed on your situation. You do not necessarily have to do this if this will cause you to be even more stressed or if you think that your teachers/guidance counsellors will respond poorly, but just an idea. I know that I have had some teachers that would have been beyond understanding. I hope that you continue to do well with therapy. Keep us updated.

  20. haesol Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you so much for the update! Congrats on winning the games! I hope the last one was good too.
    I’m sorry that school has been giving you a rough time, it’s okay to ask teachers for a little consideration if you ever need it. I’m glad you like your therapist and that therapy has been helping you, that’s really great. And hopefully you’ll never have to see that man again.
    Looking forward to another update!
    I wish you the best,
    sol.

  21. brookeallnutt Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Congrats on winning your first two games, and I hope your game on Friday went well I’m sorry you are having a rough time at school, and I hope the workload eases up soon. I’m glad to hear that therapy is going well, and hopefully it continues to help you. Hopefully you never have to see that man again. Take care, and I look forward to hearing another update!

  22. mjy1999 Volunteer

    Thank you for your update I completely understand being overwhelmed with school right now. I think therapy is seeming to help. I hope you keep doing well. Keep sharing.

  23. jcas120 Volunteer

    Hello gymnasticslover,

    First off, congratulations on winning your two games! That is a big accomplishment. I’m also happy to hear about the fact that you like therapy. Also, you’re right, you do have a lot going on and the teachers have no idea. I think you are doing a great job despite everything going on. I’m also happy to hear about your mom being involved with your mental health growth. I’m excited to hear about your next update it seems like you’re doing some great work. Stay safe!

  24. snandi2 Volunteer

    Hey gymnasticslover,
    Congrats on winning your 2 games! I hope your game today went well. I’m sorry that you failed both of your quizzes. As someone who had to struggle between balancing my academic and social life, I understand that it can be really difficult sometimes because our teachers and coaches don’t know what our lives are like. It’s great to hear that you’re liking your therapist so far. A good therapist will help steer you in the right direction towards the path of healing. Asking your therapist what to do if you ever encounter your abuser might be helpful so you’re prepared. Stay strong and I can’t wait to read your next update!

  25. AlisonDKaufman

    Hello gymasticslover

    I know how hard it is to focus on school when you have other stresses in your life and major distractions. Therapy is such a positive outlet now and the power, strength, and confidence you will gain from the commitment will be well worth it. I am truly sorry you are dealing with the fear of seeing him but I believe the steps you are taking by sharing with us and the therapy will help you work through these fears. Please continue to share with us and know we are all here to support you.

  26. musicislove

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    I’m sorry school is stressful right now but congratulations on winning your first two games. Good luck at your game today! It’s also great that you like therapy and the therapist that you’re working with, that’s so important when working towards healing. When I was in school, it was just a couple minutes from where my abuser lived and that was really hard, so I can somewhat understand the anxiety that brings up, I’m sorry you have to deal with that. I know it’s scary to know that there’s a chance you could see him, you shouldn’t have to go through that kind of worry. Thank you for sharing what’s going on with us and please come back anytime, we’re here to support you.

    Delaney

  27. Thomas Volunteer

    gymnasticslover,

    It is definitely tough dealing with school, especially when you have a lot of other things going on. I’m glad you are liking therapy and that you feel like it’s helping you get through your flashbacks. That’s great progress! Just keep on going! You can do this. Stay strong.

  28. KatherineL Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thanks for the update. I can totally understand feeling overwhelmed with school. School is a lot on it’s own, even without coping with flashbacks and other things you’re dealing with, and the pandemic. Hang in there, you’ll make it through. Do you think it would be helpful to talk with your teacher about what you’re going through? If you feel comfortable with this teacher, it may be worth thinking about telling them; They may be able to give you accommodations. Something to consider and maybe talk through with your therapist.

    I am so glad you found a therapist you love! It can make all the difference. Have you talked with her about your feelings of unsafety? She may have some ideas on how you can bring back a sense of safety or help you develop a plan for if you run into him. You deserve to feel safe and in control.

    KatherineL

  29. alexiswilliams

    Gymnasticslover,

    I am glad that you are learning to cope with your flashbacks, this is a great step in recovering from trauma. Trust me, you are not alone in feeling overwhelmed by school! I’m sorry that you are feeling like your safety is compromised, that is unfair to you. You deserve to feel safe and secure. I am thankful that you have the support of your mother, and who sounds like a great therapist.

    Sending love and healing,
    Lex

  30. ZJC9753 Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    I am sure it is scary to be living so close to the person who hurt you, I wish that weren’t the case. I think speaking with your therapist about this could be helpful, maybe she could help you to come up with ways to feel safe.

    Yay and congratulations! I am happy that you won the first two games, good luck on the next one! I’m sure this must be so exciting!

    I remember how stressful school was and I am sorry that your teachers do not know about what is happening. Do you think you could have a conversation with your teachers about some of the things that are going on? Of course only if you are comfortable with that. It can be extremely difficult to focus on school when there are so many stressful things going on and I hope you are not being too hard on yourself for those geography quizzes. I am so happy to hear that you like your therapist and that she is helping so far! It is so great to have a therapist that you like, it can be so helpful with healing!

    We are always here for you and happy to hear from you! Thank you so very much for updating us and please come back and share with us again soon!

  31. music2799 Day Captain

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    Congratulations on winning your first 2 games, and good luck for Friday! I’m so glad that you found a wonderful therapist who is helping you through your flashbacks. It’s great that your mom is supporting you and being open to different ways of healing.
    I empathize with you when it comes to high school. It can be hard to find a balance among school, extracurriculars, family, time for relaxation, and more. I completely agree with Ochoa about asking for help. Asking for help when you’re struggling really makes a difference. I definitely struggled with that in high school. Could it be possible to sit with your teachers and explain that you have a lot going on, then ask about the best ways to prepare for their classes?
    I can understand how you feel about living close to your abuser. I think you could bring this up with your therapist. She may have some suggestions regarding how to alleviate those fears and what to do if you see him.
    Thank you for updating us. We look forward to hearing from you, and we’re here for you. You’re dealing with a lot of changes, and I encourage you to be kind to yourself! You’ve got this.

  32. Alyssa Day Captain

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    I’m sorry that school is stressful. Maybe you can talk to your therapist for tips about time management with school. I’m happy that you love your therapist! Therapists are great when you find a therapist that you like.
    Try to not think about the fact he lives 3 min from you because even though he lives that close it isn’t likely that you will see if, but the more you think about it, the more it will stress you out. Thank you for updating us! Continue to stay strong.
    -Alyssa

  33. MySunshineD Volunteer

    Hello Gymnasticslover ~ I am so happy to hear about your team winning your first two games. That is fun. And, a great distraction, isn’t it? Loving your therapist is a great thing. Sometimes it is so hard to find one that you can connect with at that level. This is a real plus for you. Sorry about school. Maybe take the positive with the negative and just really study and focus for your next quiz. I know you can do it. You’ve got this. You had mentioned prior that you were on meds for your anxiety and depression. I hope they are helping you to stay more focused. I do not know much about being hypnotized. If this is something that can help you, that would be a great thing. Let us know if you went this route and how it went. We all will be looking forward to an update soon. Take care & be strong. ~Terri

  34. sfmbelle413 Day Captain

    Hey there gymnasticslover,

    Congratulations on your first two wins! That’s exciting. School can be hard, especially with a lot going on. I can tell you’re trying your best and that’s what matters. I’m glad to hear that you like therapy and love your therapist. I know you’re going to be able to work through your flashbacks and get yourself to a safe space. If you ever need more immediate help, our friends at Crisis Text Line are available 24/7. You can reach them by texting VOICE to 741-741. I’m looking forward to your next update!

    Stay strong,
    SFM

  35. Neesha Volunteer

    I am glad you go to a different school and you love your therapist. I am so sorry to hear that you abuser lives so close. I hope you talk about the proximity with your therapist and how you can help yourself feel safe.

    It sounds like you are doing the difficult and painful work of healing. Be gentle with yourself as you are learning to accommodate school and healing. Please keep us updated and we are here for you whenever you need to share.

  36. colton95 Volunteer

    Thank you for updating us! I’m glad you like your therapist and I’m sorry that he lives so close to you. I hope that somehow you’ll be able to get far away from him and that you will stay safe and strong.

  37. mikaylaanne11 Volunteer

    Hey again gymnasticslover!

    I’m so glad to hear that you like your therapist and that your mom is open to trying different forms of therapy. Those can be two big obstacles to healing, so it’s wonderful that you have a good team to support you!

    I graduated college a little over a year ago, so I sympathize with struggling with your coursework and working on your mental health. My advice is just to prioritize what you can. It’s genuinely okay if a couple of things slip through the cracks–at the end of the day, sometimes it’s more important to work on your health than it is to do a reading for a class. I was a straight-A student through high school, so this was really hard for me to wrap my head around when I got to college and started going to therapy. If you feel comfortable with them, it might be worth it to talk to some of your teachers and let them know a little bit about what you’re going through. It’s always a hard conversation, but some educators are more receptive than you would anticipate!

    I’m also glad to hear that you were able to switch schools to be farther from your abuser. I imagine it’s still hard to live that close to him, though. That anticipatory anxiety of potentially seeing him can be so draining. That’s an extremely valid response. I think it’s good that you’re remembering the positives in your life, like winning games and enjoying your therapist. Keep holding onto those, and come back to share any time!

  38. larakopp Volunteer

    Thank you for the update, gymnasticslover! I’m glad that you are liking therapy and love your therapist — that’s half the battle. Sounds like you’re working really hard! Don’t forget to be kind to yourself during this time. How do you feel about your mom’s suggestion of Hypnosis?
    Congrats on winning your first 2 games; that’s very fun and exciting. Good luck Friday!
    I’m sorry that school is so stressful and that you’re getting so much work each week, even though you’re working so hard on other areas of your life. Balancing school and therapy can be tricky, and I remember it taking me a little while to find a good balance. Try not to be too hard on yourself as you’re navigating all of these new changes; you’ve got a lot going on. You’re doing a great job and it sounds like you have a lot of support!

  39. zelda Day Captain

    If you are looking to explore other therapeutic trauma treatments, ask your therapist about EMDR. You’re not being hypnotized; instead, it’s goal is to desensitize you to these traumas. It may be worth getting your therapist’s POV about the treatment, and see if it’s worth a shot.

    If schoolwork becomes more of an issue, talk with a guidance counselor. Maybe s/he can talk with your teachers about working with you, but w/o giving them any details on your situation. Or, you could just let your teachers know that you need help with your courses. You don’t have to let them know anything else for them to work out a plan with you to get you back on track. It’s their job to be there for all of their students.

    You are going through a lot right now; high school by itself is always tough. If you have any doubts about your inner strength and capability, just keep that in mind.

    Even if things don’t seem like it in the moment, I promise you that you will make it through. You got this!!

    P.S. Don’t worry about your abuser. Guys like him are cowards; any person who exerts power, force and control over another is, by definition, a total wimp. If anything, he should be scared of you. You’re a fighter, and you’re a survivor. He can’t say the same for himself.

  40. MarciaD Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover – I’m so glad that you like your therapist. I hope she can continue to help you deal with the trauma. There are so many different types of help you can get to help you with the flashbacks. I have heard very positive feedback regarding hypnosis. It sounds like you have supportive people around you that have your best interest at heart. Glad you won your first 2 games too, that has to be a great feeling. I hope you can continue to feel better about your surroundings and some of the stress will be lifted so school won’t be so overwhelming. Sounds like you are on the right track.

    Much love

    MarciaD

  41. Ashley Day Captain

    That’s awesome how you won your first two games!
    I remember the feeling of not passing quizzes in high school and I encourage you to be kind to yourself. Balancing schoolwork can be difficult. Since he’s nearby, it’s understandable that you’re concerned about the possibility of encountering him. If you happen to see him, please know it’s okay to turn the other way around and/or not acknowledge him.
    It sounds like you feel comfortable with your therapist and attending therapy sessions helps you feel grounded. When you think about being hypnotized, what are your thoughts on that?

    Hang in there with school. You got this. It’s great to see an update from you.

    Ashley

  42. Bluebell13 Volunteer

    Dear gymnasticslover ,
    Thank you for the update. It sounds like you have a lot going on right now. There is a great website called The Center for Parent and Teen Communication and it has some great resources for teens about managing stress and creating schedules for yourself. You might find it useful. It’s so good to hear that you like your therapist and that therapy is going well. It would be very scary to live so close to the person who did this to you. Maybe you could ask your therapist to role play some strategies with you about what you would do if you ever saw him so that you have a plan and wound be suck in your fight/flight/freeze.
    Take care of yourself!
    Sending you love and strength,
    Roxie

  43. Breanna Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for coming back with an update. I’m sorry that things seem busy and stressful right now. But, I am so glad to hear that you like your therapist and that she is helpful! Having a good relationship with your therapist is one of the most important factors in healing. I understand how you can still feel anxious and unsafe with him being so close. How do you feel about the idea of being hypnotized? I think you should do what you’re comfortable with, and maybe you can talk to your therapist about the idea too. Keep your chin up.

    Sending you love and support,
    Bre

  44. yailinrenteria Volunteer

    Hey gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for sharing your progress with us. I am happy that you guys won your first two games. That is great news. School can be really stressful and a lot of workloads, but do not forget to take care of yourself. Failing can only lead to improvement. Do not let the geography quizzes get to you. I am glad you are enjoying therapy and I am glad you have built a connection with your therapist. If you feel like getting hypnotized will help you, then go for it. Do not feel pressured in doing what your mom tells you to, do what makes you feel the most comfortable. It is understandable feeling unsafe knowing he lives 3 minutes away. It can be hard but reach out to your parents or call for help if you ever feel unsafe or cross paths with him. Remember we are always here for you.
    Stay safe and best wishes,
    Yailin

  45. jlanderos16 Volunteer

    Hey Gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for coming back and giving us an update! But congratulations for winning 2 games and goodluck on your other game! And I understand you on how school is stressful, and professors giving us a ton of homework because I’m the same here stress out with a ton of homework. But I hope you raise up your grade and study hard for your quizzes! You got it! I hope you doing well and give us another update! Be safe and take care!

  46. cindy024 Volunteer

    Hi, gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for sharing with us and giving us this update! I feel from you on how the school is stressful and professors/teachers give out a lot of homework/work every week. School is tough on you right now, but not to worry I am sure you can raise your grade up! As always, we are here to help and support you in no matter what you may need! Him living 3 minutes away could impact you again, but knowing that you are safe and sound is all that matters!! Feel free to reach out and share with us more updates!! Thank you! we are here at AVFTI!

  47. Erin O'Callaghan Day Captain

    Thanks for coming back to update us. I’m sorry school is tough right now, but really glad to hear that therapy is going well and like your therapist! That’s so important. Yes, please come back and update us anytime-we are here for you.

    Erin

  48. Ochoa Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    That’s for the update, i know school can get stressful and overwhelming especially when your in a sport as well. My advise would be try you best to stay as organized as you can when receiving loads of assignments. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for help. I had that issue in high school and it only made things worse. Trust me everyone needs help i know your not the only one struggling. Glad you’re enjoying therapy as you should. I know it’s really hard knowing he lives 3 minutes away. I think you should try and avoid going anywhere near his direction. And if you feel threatened by anything call for help. Please continue to come and talk to us, we are here to listen