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I am sad to hear that AVFTI is closing its doors however, I just want to say all of the unconditional love and support I have received has helped me more than any of you will ever know. While I do have a support system it is very small and for everyone that read my story I hope it gave you some kind of hope if you have been through similar situations. This path is not an easy one to take but, it is WORTH IT! As I told you I have a husband and a stepson. Well today my stepson called me mom. It made me the happiest person on the planet to hear those words from a six year old that is not biologically mine but chose me to be his mother. I just want everyone here that may be struggling to know that there is hope, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. What happened to those of you who struggle and have struggled with abuse does not define who you are but, does help build you into who you will be. I love you all and I am thankful to have you all by my side. 

Much Love,

NEVERAGIN


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34 comments

  1. cjsvolunteer

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,
    I was so happy to read your update. I’m glad to hear about the positive progress in your relationship with your stepson. It does not matter the size of your support system so long as it is made up of the people who truly care for you. I know your words will help to inspire others who may be experiencing a difficult time and I hope you continue to receive the best out of life.

  2. Breanna Volunteer

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,

    Thank you so much for sharing this update with us – it made me tear up. I know it’s difficult to hear this news, but I’m really glad to hear that this organization has left a positive impact on you. You are absolutely right – the path to healing is not easy, but absolutely worth it. I can imagine the joy you felt hearing your stepson call you mom. That is really lovely. Even thought AVFTI won’t be here anymore, I hope you know that we will continue supporting you from afar. Keep your chin up!! You got this!

    Sending love,
    Bre

  3. music2799 Day Captain

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,
    It’s difficult to know that AVFTI is shutting down soon, but I’m so glad that our support has helped you. Thank you for sharing your story with us, and I’m glad to hear that you’re doing well. I’m so happy that your stepson called you mom, and I can only imagine how happy you were!! Moments like that are truly precious.
    Thank you for sharing this update, and I appreciate the hopeful words you wrote. I know your words will help other people as well. We believe in you, and we support you. I hope you’re having a wonderful week!

  4. barbaralizet

    Hi Neveragain, I am very happy to hear you are doing well. I am also saddened they will be closing their doors but lets look at the bright side and see how far you have come by posting on this site. Hope you will continue to thrive and i wish you the best in life.

  5. averagestudent Volunteer

    Hi neveragain,
    I just want to say how excited I am to hear that your stepson has now felt comfortable calling you mom, I can’t imagine the joy you are feeling and you deserve it. Enjoy the moment and just know you are doing a good job. Yes, it is sad to know AVFTI is closing but be proud of all the accomplishments you have made by being able to post on this site. We enjoy your positivity to let everyone know it gets better and coming from you makes it even true. please continue to thrive and thank you for encouraging others you are awesome.

  6. ajklessig Volunteer

    Hi neveragain,

    I too am sad to hear that AVFTi is closing its doors. I am so glad you have found comfort and support in this community. Thank you for coming here to share your story. Just as you have found value in sharing, we too have grown and learned from reading everything you shared.
    That is so amazing that your step son calls you mom, I am sure it brings you great joy. You are right, abuse does not define who you are. I hope the positivity you have continues to guide you on your journey!

  7. chompyapple1 Volunteer

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,

    Thanks for writing to us again. It’s good to hear that you are doing well and that our support has been helpful to you. Thank you so much for sharing your story and encouraging others. It’s great to hear that your stepson called you “mom”, I’m sure that means a lot to you. I wish you the best! Stay safe!

  8. cachonoah Volunteer

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,

    Thanks so much for giving us an update! I’m glad to hear that you are doing well for yourself. It’s great that your stepson called you mom, that comes from a loving place and I’m sure you deserve that title! On another note, thank you for sharing your experience with us and in reaching out because that takes a strong person to do so. Despite your story I’m glad it is shaping you to be a better person because you are right, what happened to you or anyone who is struggling it doesn’t define who you are. Keep on moving forward! You are doing great. Much love from your friends here at AVFTI.

  9. walvarenga1 Volunteer

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,
    Thank you for returning and expressing your appreciation. I’m grateful that our support has been effective to you. I’d like to express my sincere thanks for sharing your experience with us and encouraging others, including myself! You’ve found your light, and that’s something I can remember if I ever have a bad day. As a member of this community, we value your contribution. I can imagine your joy when your stepson addressed you as his mother. I wish you all the best in your life! Take care of yourself.

    Best,
    Wesley

  10. noobloop Volunteer

    Hi NEVERAGAIN, I am also sad that AVFTI is shutting down. I don’t doubt how much it has helped you and I’m sure it has helped others. There may be someone out there who read your story and gave them courage to speak up or simply take a baby step forward. Braveness is contagious! I’m glad to hear that you are happy. I wish you the best and a very happy, long, and healthy life to you and your loved ones.
    Much love and hugs,
    noobloop

  11. Dash35

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,

    I am sad that AVFTI is closing too! I am so happy to hear that your son called you mom, that has to be an amazing feeling. It seems like you have grown a lot and even though it has been a rough path you have been able to get through it all and you are so strong to be able to do that. You should be so proud of what you have been able to accomplish. I hope there is another organization out there like AVFTI for anyone that might need to talk. We love you and we are happy that we have been by your side every step of the way!

    Best,
    Dash35

  12. mirage276 Volunteer

    Hello NEVERAGAIN,
    I am sorry to hear about the site closing down but a the same time I am so glad to hear it has helped so many people along their journeys. It makes me incredibly happy to hear that your step son has chosen you to be his mother, congratulations as that must’ve been an incredible feeling. I wish you nothing but the best in all your future endeavors, thank you for being so brave and sharing your strength with us all.
    Best- M

  13. Javi7295

    Hello NEVERAGAIN,

    Thanks for coming back and for the update! We all share the same sentiment here and are all sad that we are unfortunately closing but thank you for the kind words. I am happy to hear that you felt supported here and I am sure others were able to read it as well and feel a sense of hope. I can only imagine how happy you must have felt to be called mom. We wish you nothing but the best and good luck on all your future endeavors.
    Best wishes- Javi

  14. rvmoss Volunteer

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,
    It is sad to hear that doors are closing! I appreciate you sharing the stories you did throughout time because those stories must’ve helped someone else that was going through something similar. I can only imagine how you felt when your stepson called you mom, a blissful moment. You are right there is a light at the end of the tunnel and I’m glad you are there to see it. I am happy to see the acknowledgement that abuse does not define you but helps you into who you are. We love you and wish you all the happiness in life and nothing but the best! Much love, LR <3

  15. Alyssa Volunteer

    Hi Neveragain,

    Thank you for your update. I too am sad to see the site close. I’m so happy for you in that wondrous moment and a huge milestone. I’m sure those emotions were so welcoming. Thank you for the inspiration for others as you posted. I hope the positivity keeps flowing. Wishing nothing but the best for you.

    -Alyssa

  16. Lala

    Hello Neveragain,

    Thank you for all the stories you have shared with us. Im so happy for you, I cant imagine the emotions you must feel that your stepson called you mom. You deserve all the good in this world. Thank you for all your updates 🙂

  17. lqui101 Volunteer

    Hey NEVERAGAIN,

    It is really sad that the site will be closing but just knowing that it has helped you and many others is what brings me at peace. This is not an end, this is just the next chapter of everyone’s lives here. I am so happy that your step son acknowledges you as his mother, and you and him are bonding on a deeper and emotional level. I hope that you continue to thrive and live on to being happy. You deserve it all!

  18. Metalhead Volunteer

    NEVERAGAIN,
    Thank you for your kind words of wisdom. What you’re sharing with us today is wholesome and truly inspirational to all survivors on this platform. I am so happy to hear about your stepson calling you mom today for the first time, it must have felt so wonderful to hear that. I am also sad to hear about this platform closing its door at the end of this year ): although I am a new volunteer to this website, I was still looking forward to being active on this platform even after my volunteering time is up. Stay safe, and keep riding that motherly high!

    Respectfully,
    Metalhead

  19. eagle206 Volunteer

    Hi Neveragain,

    So glad to hear that AVFTI has been a safe space for you. You deserve all the love and support that you are getting. I’m so happy to hear that your stepson called you mom. That must have felt amazing. Thankful for your bravery in sharing and supporting others.

    Stay strong,
    T

  20. jcas120 Volunteer

    Hello NEVERAGAIN,

    I am also sad to hear that AVFTI is closing its doors. Luckily, a lot of great work has been done here. I am so happy to hear that you received love and support from AVFTI. I know that your words also inspired and helped others begin their healing process. I know that this path isn’t easy but you’re right it is worth it.

    I am also happy to hear your stepson called you mom! What a great milestone that is very nice to hear! I love your positive statements saying there is hope and there is a light on the other end of the tunnel. You are right, abuse doesn’t define who you are! We are so thankful you came by to share all of this today I hope you continue to do well!

  21. Marissa Day Captain

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,

    Thanks for the update! I’m so sorry we are closing our doors. It’s painful for all of us on the team, as well 🙁

    Anyways, I’m so happy for you! I’m glad we could make a positive impact on your life. 🙂

  22. sarahj Volunteer

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,
    I think everyone in the AVFTI community is sad to see the end so near. It has been such an honor to be a part of so many different journeys, but also such a relief to find a place to share my own story and feel supported. AVFTI has hopefully opened a lot of eyes to survivors and non alike— speaking up about sexual violence and the need for awareness, love, and reform. I am so happy for you and your adventures with your stepson. I have a stepson of my own (who just recently turned 16.. ahh!!).. and they are a treasure. I hope you continue to share that bond! Wishing you all the love and happiness in the world!!
    -sarahj

  23. brookeA Volunteer

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,

    Thank you for sharing this update with us. I’m so glad that you received so much love and support from this community and that it has helped you! I’m sure your story has given hope to so many people, and I’m grateful that you are willing to share it. And YAY! I’m so happy to hear that your stepson called you mom. Thank you for all your encouraging words, and I wish you and your family the best!

  24. musicislove

    Hi Neveragain,

    Thank you for your kind words, it’s definitely sad that AVFTI is closing but what matters is how much good has come out of it. I can’t imagine how good hearing your stepson call you mom, that’s awesome!! I’m really happy that the support from all of us here as been so helpful, that has always been the goal. It’s also good that you have a support system, that is really important. Sending love your way!

    Delaney

  25. KatherineL Volunteer

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,

    Thank you for your gratitude post. I am so glad that our support has been helpful in your life. We appreciate you as a member of this community. Wishing you the best!!

    KatherineL

  26. mikaylaanne11 Volunteer

    Hey NEVERAGAIN,

    We’re so glad to have had you in this community! I’m so excited for you and your family that your stepson chose to call you mom, that’s such a wonderful thing to experience! I’m very thankful to have been at least a small part of your healing journey. Keep on fighting 🙂

  27. jcastle38 Volunteer

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,

    I am glad to hear from you again! I think we are all very sad that AVFTI is closing but it makes me glad to hear that we leave you with a strong support system, and with a happy family. It made me so happy to hear that your stepson called you mom! That is such an honor and I am so proud of you for earning that title! Your story has inspired so many others, I hope you continue to do great things. I am sending you lots of love!

  28. vanessadmoreno Volunteer

    Hi Neveragain,

    Thank you so much for sharing. I am so glad to hear that you are doing well, have a support system, and even have a loving family. It makes my heart really happy that your stepson called you mom, and I can already tell that you will have a great relationship with him as he is growing up. Thank you for your kind and inspiring words, I feel as though they will help other survivors on this website, as well. You are so strong and I am really proud of how much you are persevering. Sending you all the love.

    -Vanessa

  29. Neesha Volunteer

    Thank you so much for sharing your appreciation! I am so glad you found us and I am grateful I found AVFTI as well. This is a beautiful website a lot of us have grown and healed here.
    With love,
    Neesha

  30. karina Volunteer

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,

    Thank you so much for updating us and for letting us know that we were able to help. I’m so glad you found support here, and I’m proud of you for how far you’ve coming in your healing journey. It warms my heart to hear about your stepson. I’m so glad to know that you have a supportive and loving family.

    Sending so much love,
    Karina

  31. Alyssa Day Captain

    Hi NEVERAGAIN,
    Your update just made my day. When you said, “what happened to those of you who struggle and have struggled with abuse does not define who you are but, does help build you into who you will be,” really makes sense and gave me a different view of myself post abuse. I’m happy your step son called you mom. That is really great news! Thank you for updating us. Continue to stay strong.
    -Alyssa

  32. Erin O'Callaghan Day Captain

    Thank you for coming back to share with us. I am glad that you have found support here, and that you continue to have a supportive family and that’s great about your stepson! Sending you all the love <3

    Erin

  33. hdezcinday07 Volunteer

    Hello NEVERAGAIN,
    Thank you for coming back and sharing your feelings about how you feel about yourself and about AVFTI. I’m glad that we were able to help you and support you through your struggles. It is always a pleasure for us to help and listen to peoples stories. I’m so happy and proud of you, you have come a long way. I’m happy to hear that your stepson called you mom that is a great accomplishment. Thank you for staying poitive and sharing yuour words of wisdom to other people. Those words will help them throughtout there struggle. Continue to stay strong. Wish you nothing but the best.

  34. Starling Volunteer

    Hi Neveragain,
    Thank you for continuing to share your story with us. It’s great to hear that things are going so well for you! That must feel amazing to have your stepson call you mom. Thank for your kind and inspirational words. I’m sure they will bring hope to someone here. If you ever need anything, let us know.