hi. so i’m giving an update. i got a therapist. i meet with her on a zoom call next week. i’m only being put back on medication for my anxiety and depression. i started freshman year. it’s definitely stressful but i think i just need to get used to the workload and then i will be fine. i’m on the cheer team for my school. our first game day is in less than 2 weeks. i’m still having flashbacks on what happened to me. i’m trying to learn how to maintain having so much going on. but i thought i would just give a little update. (if you don’t remember who i am, i’m the girl who was sexually harassed and assaulted at school) thank you for all the support. it has definitely helped and it really means a lot❤️


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  1. eagle206 Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for coming back to us with an update! So glad to hear that you were able to get a therapist. I hope that the medicine helps you feel better. The flashbacks must be hard, but now you can start to work towards making better school memories. Best of luck with the first game! I know you’ll do amazing. You can handle this year and we are all here for you!

    Stay strong,

    Tyler

  2. Jordan Volunteer

    Hey there gymnasticslover,

    It is great to hear from you! I am happy to hear that you have a therapist and that she is going to be helping you throughout your healing process. It is always intimidating starting a new year of school- but try to think of this as a fresh start. You deserve to have fun being a cheerleader and going to the football games with your friends just like any other high school kid. I am wishing you the best of luck this year, you got this! I know some days will be better than others, but just remember that we will always be here for you if you ever wanna talk/get your feelings out.

    – Jordan

  3. musicislove

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for giving us an update! I hope that you had a good experience with your therapist and that freshman year starts to feel okay soon. I know stress is hard to deal with but hopefully once things keep progressing, things get easier. I’m so sorry you’re having flashbacks but sadly they are very common, I hope that your therapist helps you with ideas of what to do when dealing with stress and flashbacks, breathing exercises can really help and so can different hobbies and practices. Good luck and just know we’re here for you!

    Delaney

  4. Neesha Volunteer

    Thank you for the update! You have a lot of new things happening, it makes sense that you are feeling stress and I’m glad you are on medication and have a new therapist to help you adjust, cope, and heal. Flashbacks are hard and my heart breaks for what you have suffered. Please do keep taking care of yourself and feel free to update us whenever you would like.

  5. ajklessig Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for coming back to update us! I am happy to hear that you got a therapist and have already met with her. Sometimes, that can be the hardest part of healing and can seem really intimidating.
    Congrats on starting freshman year! I myself am in college right now, so I totally understand how hard it can be to manage the workload. Personally, I have found that using planners can be really beneficial, especially as a freshman. If that is something you are interested in it, it can really help to get used to the workload! Congrats on the cheer team, I hope your first game goes well! Teams can be such great ways to create a sense of community, especially starting out as a freshman. Please don’t hesitate to come back and update us again!

  6. Marissa Day Captain

    Hey gymnasticslover,

    Thanks for the update! I’m so glad to hear about your therapist! I hope everything went well on your Zoom call. Having flashbacks is totally normal and I hope you can get them under control with the help of your therapist! You can get through this. Don’t forget that! Here’s a website I found that might help you maintain balance – https://www.verywellmind.com/maintaining-balance-in-your-lifestyle-3144738

    Please let us know if there’s anything we can do for you!
    Marissa

  7. caitlynmmiller Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    I think I responded to your last post. It’s so great to hear from you again! I hope things with your therapist are very productive, and if they aren’t then that’s okay too. You might have to warm up to her or look into someone else if you’re having trouble. But I do hope you guys are a good match 🙂 Keep in mind that healing is different for everyone and that it does take time. Some days are worse than others, but it doesn’t mean those are setbacks. Transitioning into a new school setting definitely takes some time to adjust, but I trust you’ll get the hang of it. If you have any updates, please don’t hesitate to post again! You deserve all the love and happiness in the world. We’re always here for you.

    Caitlyn

  8. pianogirl44 Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    That sounds so wonderful! I am so happy that you are meeting with a therapist. I truly hope that she can help you to work through some complex emotions. I know for me it was hard meeting with a therapist because I was wondering if they could really help me. But, I cannot tell you how worth it it was for me, and I am sure that you will have the same experience.

    Please keep us updated and hope your first game goes great!

  9. haesol Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for your update! it’s nice to heart from you again. I’m glad you now get to see a therapist; although it might not have been an easy decision on getting one or not, I hope it can help you as much as you need.
    Freshman is tough indeed, but stressing over it will make matters worse. Once you start getting used to it it will be much better. Best of luck both in school and on the cheering team!
    Flashbacks are often unpleasant but it’s important to remember it’s just memories and those can’t harm you anymore, you are much more powerful than those memories. I truly hope the days to come bring you a bit more peace of mind and the sessions with your therapist can be helpful too.
    We’re here for you! you can do this!
    Stay safe,
    -sol.

  10. brookeallnutt Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for coming back with an update! I’m glad that you got a therapist, and I hope they are able to help you. Good luck for your freshman year, and I hope you have fun being on the cheer team! Freshman year can definitely be stressful, so make sure you take some time for yourself. We’re always here for you!

  11. jcas120 Volunteer

    Hey gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for coming back and giving us an update! I’m glad you got a therapist that’s a big step! Congratulations on starting your freshman year as well I hope it’s a great year for you. Now seems like a strange time to be in school for sure, but I am glad you go to a different school than him so that’s a good thing. You definitely have a lot going on but you are doing a great job so far and I hope the work load calms down soon. Take care!

  12. Northlane1991 Volunteer

    Hey Friend

    I do remember you. I want to say thank you for coming back and giving us an update. Finding a therapist can be difficult and remember you are doing a great thing for yourself by working through the trauma. Please keep us updated and know we are here for you!

  13. KatherineL Volunteer

    Hey gymnasticslover,

    I do remember you. Thanks for coming back to update us. That’s wonderful that you found therapist. Therapy can be tough, but remember that you’re doing a good thing for yourself by working through the harm you experienced. Flashbacks are a normal thing to experience, so know you’re not alone. Take care!

    KatherineL

  14. CarmenR Volunteer

    Hi there,

    I hope your first game for cheer goes well! That’s very exciting! Glad we could be here for you and support you! Stay strong! You’ve got this!

    Carmen

  15. Thomas Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thanks for the update. Freshman year is an exciting time and it looks live you have taken a lot of productive steps and maintained a positive outlook. That’s great! I hope your therapist is able to help.

    I know it’s still challenging, but you’re strong and have come this far. You have the strength within you to keep going. Feel free to update us more if you are comfortable too. Stay strong, you can do this. You’re not alone.

  16. colton95 Volunteer

    Thank you for sharing an update! I think it’s awesome that you’re seeing a therapist! I hope that things go well with her and that school won’t get too stressful.

  17. mikaylaanne11 Volunteer

    Hey again gymnasticslover!

    I’m glad to hear about these positive changes happening in your life. Hopefully therapy and medication will help to bring your flashbacks under control! I know they have for me and a lot of other folks on this site. You are powerful and will find a way to manage everything, even though you might feel a little overwhelmed right now. I hope you have a great first game! That’ll be something really wonderful to focus on.

    Come back any time you want to share. We’re here for you!

  18. alexiswilliams

    Gymnasticslover,

    First off, congratulations on seeking therapy! I have been in therapy for years, and it is so helpful. Also, I, too, take medication for anxiety/depression, and know that there is no shame in that! Flashbacks are a very normal part of coping with trauma. I’m sure they are very difficult, I would recommend doing things to distract yourself when you feel this way such as reading a book, calling a friend or family member, journaling or even listening to music. Have fun cheering your first game, please update us again!

    Sending love and healing,
    Lex

  19. MarciaD Volunteer

    Hi again gymasticslover – Your post is so nice to read. Sounds like you have a plan and you are working that plan. I’m so proud of you for moving forward. Hopefully in therapy you can learn how to deal with the flashbacks and they will, at some point, not happen as often. You are at an age where you should be having fun and living life with joy and excitement. I have found that when I get outside myself and get busy with activities and projects, I am a much happier person. Cheer sounds fun. I hope your school wins their first game. Please keep us updated and let us know how you are doing.

    Much love,

    Marciad

  20. ZJC9753 Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    I remember your story and I am so happy you came back and updated us! I hope therapy is beneficial and I think it such an important step. I am sure you will get used to the workload and do very well in your freshman year! I used to do cheer and I loved it so much, I hope your first game day goes well! Healing doesn’t always come quickly but it seems like you are taking all of the steps that you can to get the support you deserve. We are always here for you and I hope you’ll keep us updated. Thank you for continuing to share with us.

  21. Elvia29 Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    Thanks for the update and I’m glad you got a therapist. I hope therapy goes well for you. It’s never easy to talk about this, but you took the first step so that’s really good. You have a lot of good things happening and that is great. Just take everything one step at a time. Good luck with your freshman year and game. I am happy to hear you are doing great. Keep us update.
    Again thanks for the update and hope to hear from you again,
    Elvia

  22. music2799 Day Captain

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    There are so many good things to celebrate in this post! I hope your Zoom call with your therapist goes well and that your medication is helping you. I also hope your therapist has some suggestions on how to cope with the flashbacks. Good luck for your freshman year and for your first game day!! Progress is key! You don’t have to finish everything in one day, and breaking down tasks can help a lot. You’re doing a lot, so it may help to schedule in some self care every week in order to decompress.
    Thank you for updating us – you’re doing great! Please write back whenever you would like to. We’re here for you, and you’ve got this.

  23. Alyssa Day Captain

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for updating us. I’m happy you were able to find a therapist. I hope your first meeting goes well. Good luck at your first game for cheer. When flashbacks happen just remember they are just flashbacks. They are not actually happening and you are safe now. When the come back just say things that are in the room or that you see around you. That helps me when I get flashbacks. Thank you again for updating us. Continue to stay strong. We are always here for you.
    -Alyssa

  24. Bluebell13 Volunteer

    Dear gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for coming back to give us an update! Congrats on making the cheer team and enjoy your freshman year. It sounds like you have a lot of good things happening; just be sure to check in with yourself often and rest when you need to. Yay for getting a therapist! Take care of yourself and feel free to update us if you feel like it. We are here for you.
    Sending you love and strength,
    Roxie

  25. MySunshineD Volunteer

    Hello Gymnasticslover ~ Thank you for once again reaching out to us and keeping us updated. I am so happy to hear that you made the cheer team. What a great success. I bet your love for gymnastics helps you on the team. 🙂 It takes a lot of skill. I am also happy to hear that you are on some medications to help with your anxiety and depression. Going to your mom was a smart choice, in regards to that sick boy at your old school. I’m glad you didn’t give up after the school did nothing. Shame on them. A therapist will be wonderful person for you to speak to about your past assaults and I hope that they will be able to help you with your flashbacks. Please continue to update us as you go. We are here for you and we care. Have a great time at your first game. Good luck sweet girl. ~Terri

  26. yailinrenteria Volunteer

    Hey Gymnasticslover,
    It is not always easy to ask for help, but you were brave to get help. Let us know how the zoom call with your therapist went, we are always here to listen and to offer support. Always remember what happened was not your fault and it is going to take some time to heal, but you are making the right steps to great progression. It is not going to be easy but remember you are not alone. Remember to take some time for yourself and do not let school work overwhelm you. School can be stressful on its own so do not let that consume you. Good luck on your first year as a freshman. I’m glad you made it on the cheer team and I wish you nothing but good luck on game day and the rest of the year. Thank you so much for updating us on your progress and Im glad that we have been able to be some sort of help.
    Best of luck,
    -Yailin

  27. cindy024 Volunteer

    Hi, gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for giving us this update!! and also, if you need anything, remember we are all here to help!!! Good luck with your first year as a freshman and good luck with your game!! As always, we hear from you and are here to help!

  28. rachelb098 Volunteer

    Hi there,

    Thank you for the update, it’s wonderful to hear you got a therapist! You deserve to be supported during this tough time. Your feelings are completely understandable, starting a new school year can absolutely be stressful so you may find it helpful to practice some self-care. Good luck on your first game, you’re going to do great!

    Wishing you all the best,
    -Rachel

  29. Starling Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for continuing to share your story with us. I’m sorry that you’re dealing with flashbacks. That must be difficult to handle. I’m glad you’re seeing a therapist. I hope it’s helpful to you. I’m glad that talking to us was helpful as as well. If you ever need anything, let us know. We’re always here for you.

  30. jlanderos16 Volunteer

    Hey gymnasticslover,
    Thank for for giving us an update and coming back to AVFTI! Goodluck with school and on your first game! You got it! And I’m glad you’re doing better and can’t wait for another update from you.

  31. Ruby98 Volunteer

    Hey gymnasticslover,
    Thank you for sharing and providing an update! Congratulations on making the cheer team! Goodluck on your next game, you got this! You are truly working hard and the AVFTI community cheers for you. Take it day by day, and most importantly take care of yourself. I look forward hearing any future updates. Stay safe.

  32. meg Day Captain

    hi gymnasticslover!

    this update is amazing and i’m so happy to hear from you! when you meet with your therapist, remember that it’s a process. I find that the first few sessions i’ve had with new therapists have been a little awkward at first but ultimately rewarding. when you find yourself flashing back, especially if you’re in a space with your peers, focus on your breathing and grounding. there is a wonderful exercise that’s super discreet to help bring your heart rate down. it’s the box breathing exercise. basically, you find an object on a wall or use a book. you start in the top left with your eyes and trace to the top right corner, breathe in for 4 slow counts. then track your eyes and trace down the the bottom right and hold for four. trace to the bottom left and exhale for four, and then repeat to the top left corner while holding for four. do this as many times as you need to. give yourself that time to recover. I’m proud of how hard you are working. you’ll do amazing at your first game! let us know how it goes!!
    -meg

  33. dzreid Volunteer

    Hi there Gymnasticslover!
    Thank you for providing an update! I enjoy reading stories, but really like hearing updates. It’s good hearing all the positives that you have going on! Congrats on being on the cheer team. I guess my suggestion to you would be to take a few deep breaths, take things day by day, & continue taking care of you. Sadly, memories of what happened will be a forever issue. You can learn how to manage them. In time, those memories will still be there, but will lessen. It sounds like you have a lot going on this year for you. I believe you can get through. Have fun cheering, but at the same time, cheer for yourself as well! Take care.
    Dawn

  34. zelda Day Captain

    Hi, Gymnastics, thanks for the update! I’m glad you are moving forward with school and therapy. Congrats on making the cheer team! That’s an impressive feat; not everyone is able to make the team, so you must have a lot of talent. 🙂

    We are wishing you all the best, and we’re here for you whenever you need us. Hope to hear from you soon!

  35. Rustin Day Captain

    Hi gymnasticslover!

    I am so proud of you for pursuing your goals and finding a therapist that will fit your needs. I know things are still scary but you have come so far. Keep up the great work and keep pushing! Things will continue to improve for you! Please come back and keep us updated. We are always here for you!

    -Rustin

  36. larakopp Volunteer

    Thank you for the update, gymnasticslover.
    I’m glad you got a therapist and will be meeting with her within the week! I hope you like her and find comfort through your conversations.
    Starting freshmen year can definitely be stressful, but just remember: You got this! Sounds like you have a great attitude about it!
    Flashbacks only add to it all, and I’m sorry that you’re dealing with those on top of everything. Something that helps me, is finding something meaningful to me that I could hold in my hand that anchors me to the present: for a long time, it was a spare key to my own place. I’m not sure if that’s helpful at all, but I know it can be hard to keep flashbacks at bay, and having something “anchoring” to hold can sometimes offer a little comfort.
    Congrats on making the Cheer team–That’s awesome! I hope you have a great time preparing for the first game of the year!
    Keep us updated!

    -Lara

  37. Erin O'Callaghan Day Captain

    Thank you for coming back to share with us. I’m glad that you got a therapist, and that you’re getting medication which will both hopefully help! I know a lot is going on and it can still be difficult, but you are taking a big step for yourself trying to get the support you need. I’m glad that it helped to share your story here, and you are welcome back anytime.

    Erin

  38. Solongago Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover, Thank you for the update. I am so happy that you have a therapist that you can talk to about some of this stuff so you can process this stuff and hopefully that will help you be on a better footing as you go through your new school year. Congratulations on making the cheer team and good luck in beginning high school. Take care and know that we are here for you.

  39. Lex Volunteer

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    Thank you for sharing an update with us! I am so happy to hear that you have a therapist now, I hope that by talking with them your flashbacks start to disappear. In terms of school, it can be quite stressful, especially freshman year, but once you create a routine, you will be less stressed! I’m not sure if you use a planner, but writing in one will help you stay on schedule and organize your assignments. It must be so exciting being on the cheer team, I hope your first game goes well!

    Please come back anytime to share with us! Stay strong!
    – Lex

    1. Ochoa Volunteer

      Hi gymnasticslover,
      Glad you got a therapist and i hope it helps you. Freshman year, wow let me tell you it will takes some time to get used to the work load on top of having cheer practice but it will be all worth it. You will gain a great work ethic by learning how to balance school work and practices. I believe you can do it! Thanks for the update, come back anytime we will always be here to listen. Take care!

  40. aegardiner Day Captain

    Hi gymnasticslover,

    I think I missed your first update because I was out of town, but I just went back and read it. Since I didn’t get a chance to respond then I wanted to let you know how sorry I am for the constant harassment that you had to endure at school. I am very discouraged to hear about how things were handled by those who were in authority positions and who should have had your back. I’m really glad to hear that you have a therapist now and I hope that she can help with the flashbacks you’ve been experiencing. It can take time to work through these things so always be kind to yourself and don’t put expectations on yourself for when the flashbacks should stop. I wish you all the best and hope that the school year goes well for you. I hope that you find yourself surrounded by a wonderful support network with the cheer team. We are happy to hear from you any time you feel like sharing. Take care!

  41. rohina_kumar Volunteer

    Hi gynmasticslover,

    Thank you so much for coming back on here with another update. This is amazing news! I’m so happy you’ve decided to seek out professional help – I can’t assure you that the process would be easy but you would make progress with each step and will soon notice yourself processing negative thoughts in a manner that is healthy for you. School may seem quite stressful, but hang in there – like you said, you’ll get used to the workload and it will also give you something to look forward to everyday. Being on the cheer team will really give you that sense of belonging as well. As for the flashbacks, it is absolutely okay that you’re having them. Healing is a process that involves a number of hurdles to surpass, and those flashbacks are one of them. If possible, indulging in some tasks that could distract you from those thoughts could be a lot helpful. If it gets too overwhelming some days, please utilize our “Find Help” tab or text VOICE to 741741. We’re here to support you through your healing journey, no matter what challenges life throws at you. Congratulations on starting freshman year and good luck! We’d love to hear an update from you soon! Stay safe 🙂

    – Rohina.

  42. Ashley Day Captain

    Welcome back to our community, gymnasticslover.

    I remember you and I’m glad that you decided to provide us with an update. I wish that you didn’t have to endure the flashbacks.
    I commend you for finding a therapist and asking to get back on medication. In regards to school, I believe that getting used to the workload will help you experience less stress. It’s awesome that you decided to join the cheer team and I hope the first game goes well.

    It’s great to hear that our support helped you. Please know that you’re always welcome to come back to share more 🙂

    Ashley

  43. lizzi

    Hi gymnasticslover,
    I’m so glad to hear that you were able to get a therapist! I hope that your first session goes well and that she’ll be a good fit for you. I can imagine it’s hard being back in school having flashbacks, but it sounds like you’re doing some really good things to help yourself and that’s amazing. Freshman year can be hard because it is usually a heavier workload than the previous year, but once you get used to it I’m sure you’ll do great. Cheer team sounds really fun, and that could be a good way to distract yourself from what happened. Thank you so much for updating us and I hope you’ll continue to let us know how things go!

  44. snandi2 Volunteer

    Hey gymnasticslover,

    It’s great to hear that you got a therapist and that you’re being put back on medication! I hope game day goes great. Time management is definitely hard to do, especially in freshman year because you’re new to high school. Freshman year was definitely a hectic and chaotic time for me because I was struggling to maintain my grades and do all of my extracurriculars at the same time. As a college student now, I’d say prioritizing is a super important skill that I wish I had back then. Writing down everything you have to do and asking yourself “Which activities do I have to give my all/spend the most time on and which activities could I afford to spend less time/effort on?” will definitely help you balance your academic life and your social/extracurricular life. But the most important thing of all is taking care of yourself and knowing when to take a step back. If you feel overwhelmed and too stressed, don’t hesitate to talk to your teachers/cheer coach and take a break. I hope everything goes well for you and good luck!

  45. tbird830 Volunteer

    Gymnasticslover,

    Thank you SO much for the update. I’m glad to hear that you took the huge step of starting therapy and utilizing medication management for your anxiety and depression. That can be a hard thing to do. I hope that you find both to be helpful. It can, and likely will, take time, but it sounds like you’re on the right track for what you need. We will certainly be wishing you all the best with school, cheering, and your journey of healing. It will be a lot to manage at once, but we are here to support you in any way possible. Thank you again for the update!

    Tori