The precious gift of love

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Many people take things for granted today, like love. And for those of us who are victims of rape and abuse hopefully find this little story encouraging

As I sometimes put ties on when I get dressed there is this special blue tie that I sometimes hold to my cheek, let me tell you why

It was December 24, 1996 my sister had just come home from college and since I was raped and abused in 1981we didn’t celebrate any holidays, I was blamed for shaming my family. Anyway I was dead tired that day and was in my room in the basement when my sister came to my door and with a puzzled look on her face said uh there’s a girl upstairs.

I ran upstairs and I could have killed my sister for slamming the door cause when I opened it a girl I worked with was standing in the freezing cold, I invited her in. I hadn’t seen her for a while, anyway she smiled and gave me my first Christmas present since 1980 I hugged her tight and opened the gift and here was a blue tie and suspenders set I was in total shock, tears fell from my eyes, I remember asking her if she wanted to go out and get a cup of coffee or something, she smiled and said no, she had plans.

When I shut the door my sister came in the room and asked me does she know that your a eunuch?, I just looked at her and said a lot has changed since you been gone, she smiled and said does she know you were raped?, as I walked downstairs I heard her laughing as she continued fixing her hair. When my mother and step father came home she told them what happened, then my mother came downstairs and yelled at me for bringing people into my home when they weren’t home, instead of arguing with her I just took it and she walked away. In January my step father had to finish a jail sentence and I was alone one night, I picked up the phone and asked the girl out, when my mother came home she screamed and stressed me out so much I almost lost my mind, so I waited outside as it got close for the girl to pick me up, we went out again about a year later until we lost contact

Through the years nobody has ever given me something so precious and loving as she did, cause you see not only did she give me the tie and beautiful memories, but she gave me confidence, and most important she showed me love as she taught me how to love, that is the most precious gift of all

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  1. Ashley Day Captain

    I absolutely adore this story. It seems like this young lady sprinkled some hope into your life and I wish you two would have never lost contact. I’m sorry your sister and mom were disrespectful – You didn’t let their words bother you and that’s fantastic.

  2. CarmenR Volunteer

    I’m so sorry for all that you have gone through, but I am glad you have this story and memory to look back on. Thank you for sharing with us again.


  3. Jacqui

    I am so sorry that you have been through so much stress. I am so glad that you are able to see the positive in things.

    1. focus.1968

      Thank you, as I grew older I felt I have to be positive cause if I’m not, I’m going to go crazy, so even though I’ve endured some things I wish I never heard, saw, or experienced I feel that possibly I can not only help myself but help others by my endurance in my stories or experiences. I feel nobody should have to live like this, nobody!

  4. Kristen Eby

    This is an exceptional story, not only because of the care she showed for you, but because you refused to let your family dampen your spirits about it. You deserve to be treated the way she treated you, and I’m happy you had someone like this in your life.

  5. Heather GG

    I’m so glad you’ve had people come into your life and give you hope.

    Thank you for sharing

  6. Erin Day Captain

    I am glad that you have this story and this special person to help you through the tough times. Thank you for continuing to share with us your story.