My name is Tanisha. I am a mother of 3 children. I am a survivor of rape, incest, childhood sexual abuse, trauma, and domestic violence. I lived 27 years in silence. I broke silence July 3, 2020. I found my voice. I want to help the next person who’s going through or who’s gone through any of the trauma that I’ve gone through. I am a new self published author of My Pain is My Power. My book is book is about my life story. I pray my story helps the next person.


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  1. Alyssa Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha,

    Thank you for sharing with us. I’m sorry you’ve had to endure your past traumas, and know it was not your fault and you didn’t deserve what you went through. However, I want to commend you for your bravery and for finding your voice. Helping others is a great way on the healing path for yourself and for them. Congratulations on your book! That is an amazing feat to share your story with others.

    Please know we are here to listen and support.
    Sending positivity and support.
    Alyssa

  2. Lala

    Tanisha,

    I am so happy you have found your voice and decided to share your story. Sharing your story could be pretty never racking but publishing a book must be a whole different type of scare. Im glad you found the light at the end of the tunnel. Congratulations on your book!

  3. coachdiggs Volunteer

    Hello Tanisha,
    First I wanted to say thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry for what have happened in your life. I am so happy that you did not let that situation affect your life. It is also amazing that you turn that around and make that happened. Lastly, thank you for sharing your story with us.

  4. Breanna Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha,

    I am so sorry to hear about all you’ve endured, but I’m so glad you’ve found your voice. Congratulations on your book! I hope writing it also helped you heal. Thank you for coming here to share with us, and for sharing with the world. I’d like to think that you sharing your story and people like you will help better the world.

    Sending love and support,
    Bre

  5. zelda Day Captain

    Tanisha,

    Congrats on your book! Sharing your story is an incredible feat you should be so proud of. I will have to check out your book on Amazon.

    Thank you for posting on our site, and I hope you always remember your courage, bravery and light.

    Have a great day. 💖

  6. Neesha Volunteer

    Tbankston24,
    Congratulations on finding and utilizing your voice. It is a hard thing to break the silence and I hope writing a book helps you and others.

  7. jcastle38 Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha,

    I’m sorry to hear that you have been a victim of so much trauma and really sorry that you had to go through all of it. I am very proud of how brave you are to publish a book about it in order to help others! I hope your story will be able to help others that are suffering through similar trauma, and I hope that your message on here helps them get to your book. Thank you for sharing with us, we are always here if you need anything. Sending you lots of love! I hope that you are healing from all of it.

  8. Starling Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha,
    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. You didn’t deserve it, and it wasn’t your fault. I’m glad that you were able to break your silence and share your story with others. Congratulations on publishing your book! That’s a huge step and must have been a lot of hard work. I’m sure your book will help others dealing with similar experiences. If you ever need anything, let us know. We’re always here for you.

  9. barbaralizet

    Hi, I am so proud of you for breaking your silence. Being a victim of sexual assault is very traumatizing and I want you to know that none of it was your fault. You are a very strong Mom and I am happy you were able to pull through your healing process. I am very proud of you for your publication and I am happy you were able to heal. Se4nding you my love.

  10. Metalhead Volunteer

    tbankston24,

    Coming forward about sexual assault is very difficult and can be very scary, as you already know. You are so brave for being able to speak about your traumatic past, and it is extraordinarily impressive that you were able to talk about your experience and publish that tells your story. I am sure anyone that has been in your shoes before would really learn a lot and feel empowered after reading your book. I will make sure to purchase your book in the near future!

    Respectfully,
    Wyatt Rhoades

  11. music2799 Day Captain

    Hi Tanisha,
    You didn’t deserve what happened to you, and it wasn’t your fault. I’m so glad you found your voice, and thank you for writing and sharing your book. It can be difficult to put yourself out there in such a vulnerable way, and I truly commend you for that. I believe your story will reach more and more people and help them through their healing journeys. I would love to read your book, and congratulations on self-publishing. Thank you for sharing this with us, and I am rooting for your success!

  12. JudithT Volunteer

    Hi tbankston24,

    Thank you so much for sharing your story with us and with your readers. It is an amazing accomplishment to publish a book, and it is so courageous of you to break your silence with so much compassion and conviction. By sharing your story, you’re helping others realize that they are not alone, and you are making a difference. Thank you so much, and I wish you the best as you continue on your healing journey.

    Judith

  13. Caitlin Volunteer

    Hello Tanisha!

    Welcome! I am so incredibly proud of you for breaking the silence! What a courageous and amazing accomplishment. Congratulations for the book and owning your journey. You already have helped so many, I just know it.

    -Caitlin

  14. ajklessig Volunteer

    Hello tbankston24,
    I really like the title of your post, because yes, you are a survivor and that is something to be proud of. It is inspiring that you had the courage and strength to come forward and tell your story despite everything you went through. Thank you for sharing with us, I am excited to look into your book. Please feel free to come back and share again if you would like to.

  15. kelly Day Captain

    Hi, Tanisha. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m so glad to hear you have found your voice and want to help others. It takes a lot of courage. Congratulations on your book! I know I get a lot out of reading memoirs of fellow survivors. I’m excited to look into it. Wishing you all the success with your memoir. We’re rooting for you!

  16. karinakalke Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha,

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I’m so sorry you’ve experienced these traumas. I’m proud of you for being able to find your voice and for publishing your book! That is a big accomplishment! It takes a lot of bravery to be vulnerable like that. We are always here for you.

    Sending support and love,
    Karina

  17. vanessadmoreno Volunteer

    Hi tbankston24,

    Thank you for sharing…I know it isn’t always easy sharing private trauma, however, you are extremely brave for doing so and for writing a book about it! We are proud of you. I wish you lots of love and healing!

    -Vanessa

  18. nancylog Volunteer

    Hi tbankston24,

    I’m sorry you had to go through such rough experiences, but am glad that you managed and now you have a voice. We are here for you in
    case you need any help. All the best.

  19. Brooke Volunteer

    tbankston24 thank you so much for sharing. Sharing your story and writing a book is very brave. I’m sure your braveness will help others out there. After 27 years it is truly amazing what you are doing now. Please know you can come back here anytime to share. We also have a Find Help tab if you need any more resources. We all support you. Sending lots of love.

  20. rvmoss Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha!

    I appreciate you for sharing your story because I know it’s not easy. I read the back of your book and I am glad to hear that after 27 years of being silent, you found your voice again. I’m sorry you had to go through all that pain that caused you to feel silent for many years but I am grateful for you helping others who have gone through something similar to help find their voice again, like you did.

  21. dzreid Volunteer

    Hi there!
    I am excited for you! You took something so horrible as your past & turned it into something so good! I’m glad you found your voice, just sad it took 27 years. I believe because you found your voice, & turned your pain & emotional wounds around, you will help someone else find their voice! It takes one voice, one person to make a difference in someone else life. I hope your book will be that someone’s difference! I would love to get a copy. continue growing & gaining your happiness! Your life is worth way more than any abuse! You matter. Your voice is strong, & is being heard! Continue making a difference in other’s lives, but don’t forget to keep working on you!
    Dawn

  22. tolleytn Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha,

    You are so brave to speak up about your story in hopes that it can heal others. We’re all very proud of you for how far you have made it in your healing process. If you ever want to talk more about your experiences, feel free to come back and give us an update whenever you’d like. We’re here for you <3

    – Tiff

  23. Dash35

    Hi Tanisha,

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am happy to hear that you were able to break your silence and find your voice. That must have been very hard to do and took a lot of courage to find. Your voice will impact others and can help someone who might be going through something similar so you should be proud that your voice will make an impact on someone. You should be very proud of yourself for telling your story not only with us but in a book. That takes some real bravery to be able to do and we are so proud that you were able to find your voice and make a difference. Thank you for telling us your story and we will all be here to listen and to support you in any way.

    Best,
    Dash35

  24. aegardiner Day Captain

    Hi tbankston24,

    Wow – that must have been such an emotional moment for you when you decided to break your silence. That took a lot of courage and you should feel very proud of the work you have done since by writing a book about your experience. I too hope that you are able to help others – survivors need people like you. Thank you for wanting to be a bright light for those who feel like they are in the darkness and all alone. And thank you for coming here and sharing this with our team and our storytellers.

  25. t3nnis_player18 Volunteer

    Hey Tanisha,
    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am sorry you had to go through such terrible things throughout your life, but I am glad that you are using your pain and experiences to help others going through similar things. I think it is incredible you have a drive to help others and I know there are many out there who you have touched and helped with their pain. Keep on striving to help others what you are doing is amazing! Thank you!

  26. Marissa Day Captain

    Hi Tanisha,

    Thanks for sharing with us. I’m so sorry you endured such awful things, but you turning it around and using it to push yourself forward is so incredibly inspiring! You sound like an amazing mother to your children and a great role model for them. You speaking out on such a public platform would be pretty daunting and it will absolutely give others the push they need to speak out about their own experiences. Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re making a huge difference!!

    Marissa

  27. kr1510 Volunteer

    Hi tbankston24,
    Thank you for sharing the trauma that you have gone through. I am so happy that you were able to find your voice and have the passion to help others. Other than writing, have you thought about working in the field and helping victims of sexual assault, domestic violence and other types of abuse? Please feel free to come back and share other projects you are working on!
    Much love,
    Kr1510

  28. eagle206 Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha,

    Thank you for coming to share your story. AVFTI is a safe space and we are all here to help in any way that we can. It takes a lot of courage to share. I’m sorry to hear what you have dealt with for such a long time. I hope that breaking your silence helped take some weight off your shoulders. Congratulations on your book being published, that’s really exciting. I’m sure your story is going to help many people.

    Stay strong,
    T

  29. Javi7295

    Hi Tanisha,

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. That is an amazing achievement that you were able to find your voice again. Congratulations on your book as well. A book telling us about your life story will be very powerful for those who read it. I am sure that those who pick it up will be able to find the same strength that you have and can also find their voice again and speak up. Best of luck to you.

    -Javi

  30. alexa.zaragoza Volunteer

    Hello Tanisha,
    Thank you for coming on here and sharing with us and congratulations on your book. I know your voice is going to help so many people who are going through the same thing you went through. Continue sharing your voice, we are all listening.

  31. mirage276 Volunteer

    Hello Tanisha, I wanted to thank you for sharing your story with us, it must’ve taken a lot of courage to do so. You have gone through so much yet you remain to stay strong and for that I am so proud of you. Being a self published author is such an incredible achievement and I congratulate you for using your voice to help those who have gone through the same trauma you have. Stay strong and remember that you always have a voice here with AVFTI so please come again sometime if you ever need to talk.
    Best,
    M

  32. sarahj Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha,
    Thank you for sharing with us. I am so glad you have been able to find your voice and free yourself by sharing your story. I think it is wonderful you have used your gift to help others. I can only imagine how many people’s lives you will touch through your words. Thank you for sharing and please continue to do just that!
    Stay strong,
    Sarahj

  33. adrian Volunteer

    Hey, tbankston24-

    Thank you for finding your voice. You are not alone in this and it is someone like you who provides light to others’ darkness. You are why others are staying around for one more day. Share your voice and continue to be courageous in that respect. You are brave! The world is a better place from your strength. It is difficult to speak about our trauma, but you are using it for the good of others. Keep fighting the good fight!

    Take care,
    Adrian

  34. silverliningsunshine Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha,

    Thank you for sharing what you’ve gone through- it takes a lot of bravery and courage to do so. I proud that you wanted to break your silence after so long since it is not an easy decision. I am glad to hear that you are a newly published author, I am sure this book will help thousands of other people since you are not alone.
    Thank you so much for sharing, this book will help the community a lot!

  35. walvarenga1 Volunteer

    Thank you very much for sharing your story with us. It takes strength to be willing to share what you’ve been through. I had a look at your book and think the title in itself is quite compelling. This book has the potential to save and empower other victims to rise up and break their silence, just as you did. I hope you’re healing and wish you well. Stay strong! We’re here together should you ever need a listening ear or perhaps anyone to chat with. Have an amazing week!

    Best,
    Wesley

  36. lqui101 Volunteer

    Hello tbankston24,

    Thank you for sharing about the pain you have endured these 27 years. It must have been hard feeling as you did not have a voice for so long. I’m so happy you have decided to put your life in a book in hopes to help others. Let us know how the book goes and have a great rest of your week!

  37. brookeA Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha,

    Thank you for sharing this with us! I’m so sorry that you’ve had to go through all of that. It’s wonderful that you have found your voice, and I admire you so much for using your voice to help people going through similar situations! Congratulations on publishing your book, and I hope a lot of people are able to read it! Please feel free to come back and share anytime. Take care.

  38. jcas120 Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha,

    Thank you for coming here and sharing with us. I’m so sorry to hear about everything you’ve been through that all sounds difficult. It takes so much bravery to share your story publically like that! I also see that you wrote a book about your life story which is incredible. You sound like an amazing person who is bettering the world around them on a daily basis and I’m glad you have a desire to help others who have been through similar situations.

    We are always here for you if you want to come back, we also have a great resources link which can be seen here: https://www.avoicefortheinnocent.org/help/

    Have a safe and happy week!

  39. Alyssa Day Captain

    Hi tbankston24,
    I’m so sorry that this happened to you. I’m happy that you spoke up and found your voice. Congrats on your book! I think it is great you wrote about your life story. It will help and give hope to everyone who reads your book. I’m proud of you for being able to write a book that probably felt very empowering to write. Thank you for trusting and sharing your story with AVFTI. Continue to stay strong. We are always here for you.
    -Alyssa

  40. cachonoah Volunteer

    Hi tbankston24,

    We are all so proud of you for finding your voice and speaking up! It takes a lot for a person to be able to do so. And it’s great that you are making a book in hopes of helping someone else out with their trauma.

  41. noobloop Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha, I am proud and happy for you that you decided to take this big step. It’s never EVER too late to tell your story. I hope you get to share some of your experiences with us when you feel comfortable to do so. Just you taking this step is enough inspiration for another young girl, boy, man, or woman to speak up.
    Much love,
    noobloop

  42. Gaby Duarte

    Tanisha,
    Thank you for sharing this amazing resource I went and checked out your book and I think that the message is really powerful. This book can save many lives and also be a motivation for another victim to speak up and be able to break their silence just like you. I hope that you are doing well and that you are working on the trauma you experienced. If you ever need a shoulder to cry on or even just speak to we are all here.

    Love,
    GD

  43. hdezcinday07 Volunteer

    Hello tbankston24,
    First of all, I’m so proud of you.The courage it most of taken from you to finally break from silence after 27 years is impressive. Most woman would of continue to be in silence. I’m so glad you decided to write a book and tell people about your story because this will encourgae other woman to come out and tell there story as well. They will feel motivated by you. I want you to know we are here for you and we are glad to hear your stories . Hope to see you come back and share more about your expierence. Continue to be strong.
    Best,
    Cindy

  44. Erin O'Callaghan Day Captain

    Thank you for coming here to share your story and your book with us. I am so sorry for what has happened, but I am glad that you feel safe to talk about it now. We see you, we hear you, and we believe you.

    Erin

  45. KatherineL Volunteer

    Hey there tbankston24,

    Thank you for sharing. That’s amazing that you survived, found your voice, and used your voice to write a book that can help others. I hope that writing was cathartic to you and I’m sure your story will be helpful to others. Best of luck to you, but feel free to come back and share with us anytime.

    KatherineL

  46. chompyapple1 Volunteer

    Hi Tanisha,

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us. It’s good to hear you come out about your trauma in your life. I am sure that you’re book will help many people who have gone or are going through abuse and trauma. I am glad you found your voice and mission to help others. I would love to read your book, it’s pretty challenging to publish them. I wish you luck for your future endeavors.

  47. musicislove

    Hi tbankston24,

    Thank you for coming here and sharing. I’m so glad you found your voice and want to share your story to help others, that’s huge. There are so many people out there that have been through abuse and trauma that I’m sure would benefit from reading a story of survival like yours. I’m sorry for the trauma you went through growing up, no one deserves that. Sending you hope!

    Delaney

  48. mikaylaanne11 Volunteer

    Hey Tanisha!

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I think a lot of people did some serious self-reflecting in 2020 and came out stronger from that. I’m so glad you found your voice, and you didn’t deserve what happened to you. I would love to read your book, and I hope it touches the lives of others in your position! We’re here if you want to share more with us.