I have been working at my new job since February and I really love it, but my personal life is so empty. There are no single guys at work and I haven’t been able to find anyone at church either, so I reluctantly gave online dating a shot. For me, it’s like searching for high-end clothing at a Goodwill. I have been asked to be in a polyamorous relationship, offered a “massage” for an initial meeting, asked point blank if I wanted to fuck, been complimented on my boobs, told it was okay if I was thick as long as I knew how to please him, etc. It just goes on and on. This stuff does nothing for my self-esteem and just brings up memories of being treated like a sex object my entire life. I wish I didn’t have these curves. They are just a curse to me. I just want to be respected for my mind and personality. I don’t think that is too much to ask.