Sexual Harassment is Not a Joke

Sexual Harassment is Not a Joke

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Our anatomy models came in this week and one of the professors was in the next room. I peeked my head in and said, “Want to see what I got?” His response: “Ooh, I like the sound of that.” To him, that is just a witty response, but it made me feel so uncomfortable. This is what I will think of every time I see him from now on. The professional relationship has been tarnished. I wish people would think before they speak.


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21 comments

  1. MinZRivers Volunteer

    I’m sorry you had to be harassed like that. Yes! That was totally unprofessional. He should have thought before he spoke. I hope you are avoiding him as much as possibe, and that you will never have to be made to feel like that again by his words or anyone elses.?Kia

  2. Jacqui

    Hi there,
    I’m sorry that this relationship has been ruined. People really should think about the way their words can impact others.

  3. enimsaj

    Spot on. Sexual harassment is no joke at all. What sucks is it almost seems like a norm of our society.. it is almost like a reflex for some people. This is why we need to change society. I once went to a dialogue on sexual harassment in the workplace. Another student that was there as well made the comment about how rape jokes aren’t funny in the work place, but they are in the comedy club and how people are hypocrites. My response to him was that if I hear a rape joke at the work place or at comedy club I am going to get up and leave or say something because that is what we need in our society. We have to stop it no matter where the situation is. That is how we will make change

  4. Natalie M Day Captain

    Hello! you are right sexual harassment is not a joke and it is not okay. It is not always easy to be the one to stand up and say that, so I thank you for being strong and sharing what happened. I hope this doesn’t happen again to you. And I hope that some day there we will be able to live in a world where these things do not happen! Thank you for standing up! Stay strong!

  5. rkr18 Volunteer

    browning19 ,

    I understand how you feel. I appreciate you telling us about this. I worked in engineering with mostly guys and they would always make those kind of comments and innuendos. I never dared to say anything, because I didn’t want to stir things up or get fired. There is absolutely no place for that.
    -Marie

  6. Gavin Bonar

    browning19,

    Our culture has a lot of catching up to do. As a man, I do my best to stop the older men in my life from making comments similar to this.

  7. music2799 Day Captain

    Hi browning19,
    I understand why his remark would make you uncomfortable, and I’m sorry he said that to you. Your feelings are valid. That response can sound very weird in certain situations, especially if it’s a professor saying it to a student. You’re right – sexual harassment is not a joke – and it should be taken seriously. I hope you’re doing okay and that he doesn’t say anything else.

  8. MH Volunteer

    Hello browning19,
    I wish people would think before they spoke as well! This happens all too often. You have every right to feel the way that you do.
    MH

  9. elisabettap

    Hey browning19,
    I definitely think that you are right! What he said wasn’t okay. A lot of people talk before they think and sometimes they don’t learn about what that can do. I am sorry you had to deal with this. I hope that things get better.
    Elisabetta

  10. kelly Day Captain

    Hey, browning19. You’re right, that’s not okay and you have every right to feel uncomfortable. People in power say and do things like that because they’ve learned they can get away with it. It’s not right. If you feel like reporting it, I think that’s great, but you don’t have to do anything you’re not comfortable with. Unfortunately it’s just another reminder that well-respected, professional people can still sexually harass others. I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Just remember you deserve better.

  11. handelsjuc99 Volunteer

    This kind of thing has happened to me before as well. You aren’t alone. Those kinds of comments would make anyone uncomfortable and I’m sorry he said that to you. I hope he doesn’t make anymore comments like that and if he does, I encourage you to tell someone and we’re always here to listen to and support you. You don’t deserve to be talked to like that and I hope things get better.

  12. Turnschaosintoart Day Captain

    browning19,
    Seriously, if only there was a way to put a filter on people. Like grow up dude. Some men just don’t seem to realize the comments they make and how inappropriate they are and who they are directed to. Your his student. He should be ashamed for his behavior. He is supposed to be a role model and someone who is supposed to help you learn. You are supposed to have trust in him. I am sorry that he has now ruined that. . I know you are going to think of his comment everytime you see him but try just to realize hes an immature jerk and try not to give him anymore time than needed. I hope nothing else happens and you end up with better professors next time.
    Kristin

  13. Kristen Eby

    Hey there,

    You’re absolutely right, it’s not a joke. Too many people have absorbed sexualizing behavior as the norm – catcalling, inappropriate comments, touching someone in a professional setting, etc – and it’s not okay. It’s annoying. It’s upsetting. I hope that today’s societal climate will help push things in the right direction; with #metoo, articles describing and condemning such behavior, politicians (finally) and celebrities using their platform to talk about the issue, maybe things will get better. I feel the same way you do, and I’m sorry this relationship has been tarnished for you. I’ve had similar things happen to me, and simply put, it sucks. I get you.

    Kristen

  14. Bluebell13 Volunteer

    Dear browning19,
    I am so sorry that your professor said something that caused you to feel uncomfortable and changed your professional relationship. It is hard enough to establish professional relationships and once something like this happens, the dynamics become completely different. Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you.
    Sending you love and strength,
    Roxie

  15. CarmenR Volunteer

    Hi browning19,

    I am so sorry your professor made a comment to you like that. That is unprofessional, and it is wrong. You didn’t deserve that. Please let us know if we can help you in anyway.

    Carmen

  16. Solongago Volunteer

    I am sorry this has happened. Having chosen a man’s field, I work with a LOT of guys. Mostly guys. Women can be as bad, though. But it has been a lot of years, and people are a lot more aware of what is and is not appropriate. Just went through a 96 page sexual harassment training this past week. I got a certificate. I told a few people that now the only thing I am certified to do here is to harass people.

    Also, I wonder sometimes if our experience makes us a little more sensitive to comments. I always think I am wrong. Always. So if someone said something that made me uncomfortable, I just figured it was me being hyper-sensitive to some things, and my own fault to have chosen to work with men. Of course allowing comments, without making any comment or lodging a complaint, is sometimes an invitation for them to continue and it can make for an uncomfortable working environment.

    It is a balance. I think it is always best to sleep on it. Then, if you have considered it and still are upset by it, the choices are to speak directly to the offender and tell him that his statement made you feel uncomfortable or to go to HR or over his head, and explain what was said. That’s really uncomfortable too.

    I’m sorry.

  17. himynameisamos

    I’m sorry that his remarks made you feel uncomfortable. I agree, he should have thought about what he was saying before he spoke. Would you feel comfortable having a conversation with him about it?

  18. blashea Volunteer

    I am so sorry that your professor said that. He should’ve been more professional! Is there anything we can do to help?

  19. Jamie Marie Volunteer

    I’m sorry this happened to you.
    Teachers should always remain professional in the workplace, no matter what.
    Are you doing okay? Is there any way we can help?

  20. Erin O'Callaghan Day Captain

    I am sorry that someone you respected said something inappropriate-sexual harassment is not a joke, and I wish more people would understand that. Are you doing okay? Is there anything else we can do? Let us know-we are here for you.

    Erin

  21. Alyssa Day Captain

    Hi browning19,
    I’m so sorry this happened. Teachers should act more professional than that. What he said is not okay. Have you tried to talk to him about that and tell him how that made you feel?
    It’s good to hear back from you. I’m sorry it’s not on better conditions.
    -Alyssa