hey guys. I’ve been volunteering and responding to stories for close to two years now, but I’ve never really shared my story. I won’t really go in to too much detail, but I experienced sexual assault at the hands of a baseball coach at 6 years old. Later in college I was a part of an incredibly abusive long term relationship that ended with one my ex-partner’s best friends r*ping me.
my story is unique, but it is also so much like all the stories that the beautiful brave souls who come here tell. I am so grateful to be apart of this community that supports survivors, lifts one another up, and fosters growth.
I don’t like the narrative of “my trauma made me who I am, and I wouldn’t change the things that happened to me.” I think about my trauma every single day and I still struggle with it. If I could choose, I would absolutely go back and make it so that those things didn’t happen to me, regardless of if that means I wouldn’t be the person I am today.
But the truth is that is not an option, and as much I don’t let my trauma define me, I do feel shaped by my experiences. As I move into my second year of my masters in social work, I have accepted a position as a domestic violence prevention educator, and as a r*pe crisis counselor. I consider it such a privilege to do work that I am passionate about and to make an impact. I’m not sure if I would have taken this path if it wasn’t for AVFTI, but you all have certainly played a role. Thank you so much for your constant kindness and encouragement, and the reminder that there are people who care about ending sexual violence.
Stay strong and be gentle with yourselves