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Hi if you are reading this story thanks.So what I am talking about is how my dad left and how he left and what he has done.This first started when I was at the age of four my dad was in my life even when my mom and him got divorce but one day he dropped me at my moms house and the next weekend he never showed up and he left me thinking that I was the one who pushed him away and that because I was dumb that he did not want me as his kid


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  1. bjames1121 Volunteer

    I’m sorry for what you have experience. Please know that your father not being apart of your live is no fault of yours. Some parents are just not ready to be a parent or not count out to be one. We all blame ourselves for things that are beyond our control. We are here for you as a listening ear and for support.

    God Bless……

  2. candyappleb Volunteer

    Hi dinoandhailey12.

    I’m so sorry that you’ve had to go through that. What your father did is most certainly NOT your fault in anyway. Thank you for taking the time to share your story with us. We’re always here to offer support if you need us.

  3. Gamato04 Volunteer

    You are not to blame for him leaving. In any way. You are very brave for sharing your story. We are always here for you

  4. Mary Volunteer

    Hi Dinoandhailey12,

    Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry for what you are going through. It’s normal to experience guilt when a parent leaves. His choice to leave was 100% his own, and was in no way your fault. We are here for you.

    Mary

  5. Brianna W Volunteer Volunteer

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am sorry for what you been through. You shouldn’t have to go through this at all Please keep us updated on how you are doing now.we believe in you and hope you’ll return if you ever need anything else

    -Brianna

  6. Roxie-heart317 Volunteer

    Thank you for sharing your story, you did nothing to push your dad away. If he left that is on him.

  7. Colton Kim Volunteer

    I think that it is awesome that you shared your story on here. It is absolutely horrible what happened with your dad and I am really sorry that he left and that you are feeling this way. I hope that you will stay strong and not blame yourself for what happened.

  8. JProshuto Volunteer

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am sorry for what you been through. Your a child you shouldn’t have been put through that. If you never feel like you need to talk to anyone, please text VOICE to 741-741. Please keep us updated on how you are doing now.

  9. SAL Volunteer

    Thank you for sharing with us. I’m sorry you had to go through that. It must of been really hard. None of what happened was your fault- you were a child. If there’s anything we can do to help, let us know.
    Stay Strong,
    Stella

  10. Bluebell13 Volunteer

    Dear Dinoandhailey12,
    Thank you for trusting us with such a painful experience. It takes a lot of courage to admit those types of feelings to others. Please know that no matter what reason you think you can come up with to be the cause of his not returning, it was NOT your fault. Some people don’t know how to deal with their emotions or how to have healthy relationships so they try to escape them. There is nothing that your four-year-old self did…he was an adult and made a decision. I am so sorry that you had to go through that and that you have spent time blaming yourself. I want to you know that you are worthy of love and that you are enough. My mom left when I was five and I spent many years trying to be perfect so that no one would leave me again. It lead to me allowing myself to be in toxic relationships because I didn’t feel like I was worthy of anything better. I was wrong all those years….and I wish I would have learned that sooner. Love yourself fully and completely because you are awesome!!
    Sending you love and strength,
    Roxie

  11. brodie_james Volunteer

    Hello friend!

    Thank you so much for reaching out. I’m so sorry that this happened to you. It must be incredibly heartbreaking to one day have your dad be in your life, even after your parents got divorced, and then the next day never see him again. It sounds like you’re trying to figure out why he just dropped you off at your mom’s one day and never came back for his visits with you. Please know that if you ever need any resources there are some on another page of our website, and know that you’re always welcome to share more of your thoughts and feelings at any time if you need more support from volunteers. You are such a strong person and I’m so glad you felt comfortable sharing your story with us!

    Cheers,
    Brodie

  12. Kevin Casey Volunteer

    Thank you for sharing your story sorry that your dad left you don’t blame yourself it’s not your fault if you need anything or if you have any questions we always here to help you

  13. Julia Mandel Day Captain

    Thank you for reaching out to us! I am so sorry that your dad left you like that. Please know that it was not in the slightest your fault and you do not deserve to be going through this pain. Please let us know how we can help you further. We are always here for you <3

  14. CarmenR Volunteer

    Hi there,

    I am so sorry that your left, but it’s not your fault. You were the child and he was the adult. You did nothing wrong. You didn’t push him away. I’m sorry that his happened. Thank you for trusting us with your story. Stay strong. We are here for you.

    Carmen

  15. eagle206 Volunteer

    Hi Dinoandhailey12,

    You are so strong, thank you for sharing your story with us. We are all here for you. I am so sorry that your dad did this to you and especially at such a young age. None of this is your fault. He should not have left you. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help. Do you have someone that you talk to about this? Maybe your mom?

    Tyler

  16. Ashley Day Captain

    It’s devastating to hear that your dad didn’t show up. I’m sorry that his behavior influenced you to believe that you were to blame. Wanting to spend time with your dad isn’t too much to ask for, Dinoandhailey12.

  17. Lizzi G Volunteer

    Hi Dinoandhailey12,

    I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through. When parents divorce it can be so hard on us as children because we don’t understand why it had to happen and sometimes why a parent left. I know I was devastated when my parents divorced and it took me most of my life to understand why that happens. It’s not your fault that your dad abandoned you. It makes me sad that you feel like he didn’t want you as his child because you were dumb. His actions had nothing to do with you and have more to do with him as a person. I’m not a parent but I can’t imagine ever abandoning a child. It wasn’t right what he did and I hope you can find some support. Do you have someone you can talk to about this and work through these feelings you have of why your dad left?

    Much hope,
    Lizzi

  18. zoeyb

    I am so sorry that this happened to you, none of what happened between your parents was your fault. It must have been so hard and confusing to go through that at such a young age. If your dad ever made you feel like what resulted from your parents getting divorced was your fault or that you were dumb and unwanted, that is his burden to carry- not yours. We are always here to listen-please let us know how you are and how best we can be there for you.

    Zoey

  19. Marissa Day Captain

    Hey Dinoandhailey12,

    Thanks for sharing with us. I’m really sorry to hear that your dad abandoned you like that, but please know that it was not your fault. You didn’t do anything wrong – you were just a kid! That is so unfair to you. Have you talked to him at all since then? If not, that’s fine and you should only do what you’re comfortable with. Maybe you could write him a letter and not send it? It could help you get all your feelings out. Does your mom know how you feel about everything? Make sure to take your time or you could end up more hurt. We’re here for you no matter what you decide to do. Stay strong <3

    Marissa

  20. JFeeney21 Volunteer

    Dear Dinoandhailey12,

    I’m very sorry to hear that your father left you like that. Please do not blame yourself for his leaving, it’s not your fault. It could be very helpful to talk to a professional about your feelings surrounding this situation. If you need any help or resources please let us know.

  21. Northlane1991 Volunteer

    I am so sorry your dad is not in your life. That must be difficualt for you but please dont blame yourself. Sometimes adults do things that questions ourselfs. If you need support continue to keep us updated and or seek cousenling services. Their are people who care and fully here to support you!

  22. TheRealDFink Volunteer

    Hey there,

    I understand how you feel. I grew up without a father in my life and I know how you feel sometimes, the feelings are horrible. But just know that it’s not your fault, so don’t ever put the blame on yourself. Don’t let yourself drop down to a low-level over this, you are so much better than that. Keep your head held high, and keep pushing forward! We are all here for you! Thank you for sharing your story with AVFTI! If you need anything at all, PLEASE reach out to someone! Keep your head held high, hun!

    -Dustin F

  23. rkr18 Volunteer

    Dinoandhailey12,

    I’m so sorry that your dad was not in your life any more. That must be really hard for you emotionally. You are not dumb. It was not your fault, sometimes adults do irrational things and it ends up hurting the kids. Do you or have you had any support or counseling? Please let us know how you are doing.
    -sending you courage and strength Marie

  24. Thomas Volunteer

    Hi Dinoandhailey12,

    I am so sorry that your dad abandoned you. You were only a child at the time. It was not your fault. You didn’t do anything wrong. You are not dumb and you do not deserve to be treated that way. You deserve to be treated with compassion and respect. Thank you for sharing your story with us. We are here for you. You are not alone. Please let us know if there is anything else we can do for you.

    Thomas

  25. Alyssa Day Captain

    Hi Dinoandhailey12,
    I am so sorry this happened. This is not your fault. You did not deserve to have him make you think like that. You deserved to be loved. What he did was wrong. I’m proud of you for sharing your story. That was really brave of you. If you need anything specific, let us know. Thank you for trusting and sharing your story with AVFTI. Continue to stay strong.
    -Alyssa

  26. kelly Day Captain

    Hi, Dinoandhailey12. I’m so sorry your father abandoned you like that. You did not deserve that and it wasn’t your fault. I don’t know if a child that young has the ability to push someone away or even know what that means. It sounds like he made some bad decisions and hurt you when he should have protected you. You are not dumb and did you nothing wrong. Let us know if there’s anything we can do. We’re here for you if you feel like sharing more. You’re not alone.

  27. Jess Volunteer

    I am so sorry that this happened to you. Your dad leaving you at such a young age had to be incredibly hard to deal with, but it was absolutely not your fault. You are not to blame and you did nothing wrong. I’m so sorry that your dad made you feel that way, because you did not deserve that.

    Thank you for trusting us with your story. Sharing your story and how it made you feel had to be incredibly difficult, and the strength you showed by doing so is amazing! If there is anything else we can do to help you, please let us know. We are always here for you. We also have lots of resources under the “Find Help” tab that may help you on the path to healing. If you want to, update us on your story and let us know how you’re doing. Sending healing thoughts your way. <3
    -Jess

  28. music2799 Day Captain

    Hi Dinoandhailey12,
    I’m so sorry you went through this at such a young age. I can’t imagine how hard it is to cope with those thoughts and feelings at four years old. His leaving was not your fault and will never be your fault. You’re not a dumb person, and you’re not in the wrong for this.
    Thank you for trusting us with your story. Sharing what we go through is courageous and a sign of strength. If you need anything, please let us know. We’re here to support you in any way we can, and continue to stay strong.

  29. Natalie M Day Captain

    Hello Dinoandhailey12,
    I am so sorry that your dad left you when you were a child. You were so young and did not deserve that. It was not your fault what he did. Please do not feel that way. You are not dumb at all. Is there anything we can do for you? Please come back and share more if you would like. We are here for you. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
    -Natalie

  30. Erin O'Callaghan Day Captain

    I am so sorry that your dad left you like that. You were a child. You did not do anything wrong. My parents got divorced when I was young, too, and I know that can be hard. Let us know what else we can do to support you.

    Erin

  31. blashea

    Hi, I am so sorry that this happened to you. I think it is important to remember that his actions are not a reflection of you. You are a strong individual and you did not deserve that at all. Have you considered speaking with a counselor or journaling? Both are great ways to learn how to cope and process what you’ve been through. We are all here for you.