I will say that my story is minor relative to others that I have heard. I am extremely lucky because it didn’t get worse, but I know that what happened to me was still wrong. I was forcibly kissed and groped by someone I thought I could trust a few years ago. He tried to pressure me to go further for a few weeks after that until I finally cut ties with him. I still see him every week, and it’s hard to deal with sometimes.
There are people close to me who supported me…but a few months ago, they invalidated my experience out of anger. They said I should be over this by now (and some other things), but how am I supposed to be over it if I see him so often? Those words set me back. I’m wondering if I should even feel this way.
I told them that I felt invalidated, and they apologized. They said that everything was out of anger, but it’s hard to accept that. Their apology does not erase those invalidating words.
I don’t want to hold this against them for the rest of my life, but I am upset because I don’t know where they stand. I want to believe that they support me, but those words keep echoing in my mind.
I don’t know what to do.