Imagine falling in love with a pedophile?

Imagine falling in love with a pedophile?

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Hello, my name is Erin. I met Timothy when I was turning 11. He is 6 years older than me, so he was 16-17, he was in 11th grade, lives in the same town as me & knows my older brother. He started to message me from his own profile. I wouldn’t add him and I told him that because I didn’t know him. So, he made a fake account. A week goes by and I tell him I don’t want to be his friend because I found out he was fake. A year goes by, after he tried to contact me several times. He made another fake account, “gio”. He made a one direction page, commented on my photo. I thought he was a girl, so I gave him my kik. I was 12 turning 13 in 7th grade. I stopped contact with him because I got a boyfriend. When me and my boyfriend broke up, gio “magically” came back. We were talking for a few months when he “magically” disappeared. He texted me asking if I was Erin and told me he went away to get help (in reality he went to jail for 6 months for making an 11 year old send him pictures and for having 4 cellphones & a computer when he wasn’t supposed to have electronics at all) we would talk & he was so good at what he did, he would send VIDEOS of the “guy” talking about what we were talking about. I get into high school & try to kill my self because Timothy is harrasing me (not knowing Gio is Tim). I come back & get a FaceTime call from Gio. (Odd because I knew his “camera was broken”) he started off nice & asked me to get naked for him and dance & I said no, I don’t like that. He started to get angry and tell me things that no one knew about my family ( where’s I lived, where my dad worked, where my sister lived, my dads work, I can name more but I’m shaking writing this), he said if I didn’t do what he wanted, he would come to my house, kill my family, rape me and take me somewhere. I gave him what he wanted. I go to school the next day, he felt so guilty he told me who he was. He also told me to kill myself and sent me pictures of his cuts. His mother worked in the school so they didn’t call the cops. They called my father to come & get me because “they had a feeling he was stalking me” ( At this point I had no idea) my father comes & gets me& I just go to my friends house. I told them everything. They wanted to kill him but I said no, I have to get JUSTICE. So, months later I end up having PNES seizures. At that time I was 15, November of 2015. I told them everything. About 9-12 cops were in my room. I told them everything and anything. They opened an investigation. His good friend who I met at school (because I was so messed up, I had to go to a disability school) he actually came and put himself as a witness and helped the case SO much because he knew Tim more than I did (so I thought) I put a headpiece in that records & I called Tim, saying everything he did. All he said was I’m sorry. He arrested him. sentencing hearing in dec ‘16. Originally the deal was 1 year 4 months to 2 years 6 months. I was aloud to say what I wanted, so I wrote it down and I spoke. The judge changed it to 1 year 4 months to 4 years. Now it is April 2019. I had to ask the court to release him on parole because if he maxes out, he doesn’t get a parole officer. The parole denied it but the state granted what I wanted. He gets out April 22nd 2019. I don’t remember much at all, because of the trauma. But I am HERE. And proud.


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29 comments

  1. mkyuellig Volunteer

    Hello,
    thank you so much for sharing your story. I am so sorry that you went through that trauma, and at such a young age. It is difficult to understand how people can take advantage of children and harm them in such a way. I’m sorry that he was so persistent and really seemed to use all of his tricks and manipulations to reach you. It is really awesome that you were able to pursue justice, and that he went away for his crimes, and that your testimony keeps him away from you and others who are at risk. It is very brave to stand up against the person that hurt you, and you should be proud of yourself for doing what is necessary. I hope you continue to be gentle with yourself, and if you are comfortable, I suggest you seek out the support of a therapist or counselor. Many work on a sliding scale, and can offer you support as you process this trauma and experience other issues related to these events. Please come back and update us if anything changes.

    Stay strong and be gentle with yourself,
    Keight

  2. Marissa Day Captain

    Hey Erinmeghan,

    Sorry I’m a little late responding to this… I hope you still see it!

    First off, I want to thank you for trusting us enough to share your story. I’m really sorry for everything you’re going through. It’s completely unfair that someone would manipulate you like that. It’s sick. I’m so glad you stuck to your guns and pushed to get justice. You’re so incredibly strong for being so young, and I’m really proud of you.

    Is he out now? You said he would have gotten out a couple days ago, but I don’t know if maybe something changed? If you need anything, please don’t hesitate to post again. We are here for you!

    Marissa

  3. eagle206 Volunteer

    Hi Erinmeghan,

    Thank you for coming here to share your story with AVFTI. We believe you and we are all here for you. I am so sorry that this man harrassed you like this. What he did was horrible. I am glad that his friend helped put him in jail for what he did. You are here and that is amazing. You are so very strong. Please continue to update us here if you want. Stay Strong.

    Tyler

  4. Brianna W Volunteer Volunteer

    I am so sorry that this happened to you. You are so strong and brave and I am proud of you. It takes a lot of courage to tell you story/to report it. . Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help, we will always be here. Stay strong and keep up your fight.

    -Brianna

  5. Amysue43 Volunteer

    I’m sorry this all happened to you as you don’t deserve any of it. None of this was your fault. You should know that you are so amazing and strong. You have every right to be proud! You are here! I’m glad you found comfort in sharing your story with us. We are here to support you. I hope that you continue pursuing yourself and helping others with similar situations if that is something you might want to do.

    Stay strong <3

  6. Edjay Volunteer

    Hi Erin,

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. What Tim did was awful. It was disgusting how he kept trying to contact you despite you clearly not wanting to do it. You are so brave for being willing to tell the police everything–that’s definitely something to be proud of. Please let us know if there’s anything that we can do for you. Take care.

  7. Alyssa Day Captain

    Hi Erinmeghan,
    I’m so sorry this happened to you. What you did was amazing. I am so proud of you. Not many people can say that they could do everything you did. You are so brave and strong. If you need anything you can always write back.Thank you for trusting and sharing your story with AVFTI. Continue to stay strong.
    -Alyssa

  8. Thomas Volunteer

    Hi Erinmeghan,

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am so sorry that this all happened to you. You don’t deserve to be treated that way. With that said, your resiliance is incredible. From telling everything to the police to speaking at court, you were so strong and so brave. It makes me happy to see justice served. You are right to be proud. Please let us know if we can do anything else to help. Stay strong, you’ve got this.

    Thomas

  9. Jess Volunteer

    I am so sorry that all of this happened to you. You didn’t deserve for any of that to happen. He took advantage of you at a young age. The bravery it took to talk to the police is ASTOUNDING, especially because you were that young. That is absolutely amazing. You got him put in jail and spoke for yourself throughout an incredibly difficult trauma. Keep that strength and bravery.

    Thank you for trusting us with your story. If you need anything else, please let us know. We are always here and we believe you. Stay strong and keep fighting. <3
    -Jess

  10. kelly Day Captain

    Hi, Erin. Thank you so much for trusting us with your story. I’m so sorry you went through all of that. I think it’s amazing that you were able to talk to police and get him put away and continuing to speak out for yourself. You are incredibly brave. I’m sure it wasn’t easy. Please let us know if there’s anything we can do to help. We’re here for you.

  11. music2799 Day Captain

    Hi Erinmeghan,
    I’m truly sorry this happened to you. It wasn’t your fault at all, and you didn’t deserve this. I can only imagine how violating it feels for someone to know stuff about you (that you didn’t tell them), and I’m really sorry you had to go through that.
    I am so proud of you for going to the police and telling them everything. That is such a courageous decision. I’m also glad that you got justice and that the case went through successfully.
    I’ve heard that it can be difficult when a perpetrator is released. If you need support as that date approaches, we’ll be here for you.
    Thank you for sharing your story with us. You are so brave and strong for doing so. We’re here for you if you need anything, so please feel free to write back. I’m glad that you’re here, and you can do this.

  12. Bluebell13 Volunteer

    Dear Erinmeghan,
    Thank you for trusting us with your story. You are brave and strong to have gone through all of that and to follow through to get the justice you wanted for yourself. We are so glad that you are here, the world needs you<3. Please feel free to come back and write to us as often as you would like and let us know if we can support you in any way.
    Sending you love and strength,
    Roxie

  13. Gamato04 Volunteer

    I’m so sorry this happened. You didn’t deserve it nor was it your fault. You did what you did to protect your family and you did the right thing by telling the police. The way you ended this story is incredibly inspirational. You are here. You won’t go anywhere and it will be people as driven and passionate as you are who change the world.

  14. Kailey2298 Volunteer

    Hi Erin,
    I’m so sorry you had to go though that at such a young age. Nothing was your fault in any way I hope you know that. Having the courage to go to court and press charges is such a hard thing to do and you are so brave and strong. I’m happy to hear you are proud of yourself you should be! Thank you for sharing your story! We are all here for you and if we can help you in any way please let us know!
    Kailey

  15. Deanna Volunteer

    Hi Erin-

    I’m so sorry for what he put you through. I’m amazed at your courage to go through the court proceedings and parole hearings. You are a role model and should be so proud of yourself!! ?

    Deanna

  16. daisychains8891 Volunteer

    Erin,
    You are such a strong person. It takes a lot to stand up for yourself and tell people about what happened and we are so proud of you for that. You absolutely deserve to be proud of yourself for your courage and strength. Please continue reaching out to us!
    All my love and support,
    Leah

  17. andyspringer Volunteer

    Hey there Erin!

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I hope you know that absolutely none of what has happened to you was your fault. I am thrilled to hear that the system did its job and put Timothy away. I am also thrilled to hear your statement of pride at the end. Be proud of who you are and be proud of your ability to come forward; because of your bravery, many others just like you will find the drive to come forward and tell their stories as well. You are a champion in that respect and we cannot than you enough. You are safe here, you are believed. We are all behind you and will support you along your healing journey. I truly extend to you my most sincere and best wishes.

    Warmest regards,
    Andy

  18. zoeyb

    You are so strong. It takes so much courage to go through that whole legal process on top of processing everything personally. I am so proud of you for doing that. We see you and we believe you. With his release date coming up, how are you feeling? If you need additional resources that can support you, please feel free to update us anytime and let us know

    -Zoey

  19. Brianna W Volunteer Volunteer

    I am so sorry that this happened to you. You are so strong and brave and I am proud of you. It takes a lot of courage to tell you story/to report it. . Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help, we will always be here. Stay strong and keep up your fight.

    -Brianan

  20. Megan Volunteer

    Hey Erin,

    I’m so sorry that this happened to you. You have been through a lot and you are so strong for making it all of this time. You should be proud!! Let us know if you need anything, especially with Tim getting out soon, and or course we are always here to listen and support you.

    Much love,
    Megan

  21. Julia Mandel Day Captain

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am so sorry for what you went through; no one deserves to be treated that way. You should be proud! You are very strong and brave; thank you for showing others that it does get better <3

  22. blashea

    Hi, I am so sorry that you went through all of that. You did not deserve to be treated that way. I am so glad that you are safe now. You are so strong and brave and should be very proud of where you are. We are all proud of you and support you. Please never hesitate to let us know if there is any way that we can help!

  23. Natalie M Day Captain

    Hi there,
    I am so sorry for what this person put you through. You were so young and it was not okay for him to take advantage of you and harass you like you did. That must have been incredibly scary. It is truly inspiring how you fought for justice and went to speak in court against him. You survived. you made it through all of this and you came out stronger. You can get through this! we are here for you and we are on your side! We are proud of you for continuing to survive and be here! Stay strong! Let us know how we can help!
    Sending hope,
    Natalie

  24. Lizzi G Volunteer

    Hi Erinmeghan,
    I’m so sorry for what you went through with him. That must have been so scary to be threatened and harassed like that. I’m so proud of you for reporting this and demanding justice, and I’m glad he got what he deserves. It couldn’t have been easy to tell people about this and especially talk about it in court, especially at such a young age. I’m glad you’re still here and I’m glad you’re proud of yourself because you should be.

    Much hope,
    Lizzi

  25. Northlane1991 Volunteer

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am so sorry you had experienced this but you are incredibily brave and strong for having surivived all those tough situations. I am happy you are still with us. When you have support from friends and family or even anyone it can go longs way. We are here for you if you need to talk more. We are here for you!

  26. brodie_james Volunteer

    Hello friend,

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m so sorry that you experienced this, but you are incredibly brave and strong for having survived these intense and abusive situations, and I’m so happy to know you are still here with us. It seems like you have several strong and supportive people in your life, and that is truly amazing to hear! I also recognize that as the date gets closer to your perpetrator being released from jail, you may potentially feel worried or anxious about him not being in jail anymore. That being said, if you ever need support in the future, please feel free to reach out to anyone in your support system for help (family, friends, even us!).

    Cheers,
    Brodie

  27. candyappleb Volunteer

    Hi Erin,

    First of all I’m so sorry that you went through all of that. It was never your fault. You are so very strong and brave. I’m glad you were able to receive some justice in the matter. If there is anything else we can do for you as you continue your healing journey please feel free to post again. We’re here for you every step of the way. Take care,

    Becca

  28. CarmenR Volunteer

    Hi there,

    I am so for what you have been through. You didn’t deserve any of it, and it’s not your fault. I’m glad that you got justice. You are so strong, and you should be proud. You survived, and you are inspiring to others. Is there anything more we can do to help you? We are here for you, and would like to support you in any way we can. As Erin mentioned, if you are comfortable with it, therapy can be very helpful in the healing process. Stay strong, and know that you are always welcome here.

    Carmen

  29. Erin O'Callaghan Day Captain

    I am so sorry for what happened to you. You didn’t deserve any of it, and it wasn’t your fault. You are very brave for going through the court process, and for doing what you need for your recovery. Have you thought about/currently seeing a therapist? I know therapy has really helped me in my recovery. Thank you for sharing your story.

    Erin