I’m dating this guy, and we’ve been dating for a couple of months now. He’s very respectful and nice but, because I’ve been reading some of these stories, some of his behavior mimics what other abusers (including mine) have done to their victims.
I’ll give you two examples. From the beginning, every time he picks me up he gropes my ass. I don’t like this because, one, I’ve never given him my consent and, two, it reminds me of what Kyle did to me on our first date; he also groped my ass.
Another thing that my boyfriend does is sexually touch me when we’re lying down on the couch without my permission. He’s the first guy to do this to me all the time. It bothers me a lot but I never say no. However, I never say yes either. He usually touches my tits but on this one occasion he was also rubbing my vagina.
I wouldn’t mind it if he asked for my consent but he never does. And I’m conflicted because it’s not like he’s ever raped me or forced me into sexual acts. He even stopped during sex because I said it was too painful. And he never pressures me for pics or vids, unlike Justin.
I just don’t wanna be a victim again but I can’t help but feel like I’ve gotten myself into another situation with a guy who’s taking advantage of me. I’m terrified of being alone so I won’t break up with him, but I wish he would be more respectful of my body.
I don’t know what to do or what to think. Am I being dramatic or is this abuse? I need to know. Thoughts would be appreciated.