I’m okay, but my parents aren’t

I’m okay, but my parents aren’t

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Hello.

If you read my last post, you know that I had an argument with my mom. I’m doing better now and I’m okay now, but I’m really concerned for my parents.

Lately, my mom has been even more stressed than usual and is letting the littlest things bother her. She’s also been having a hard time multitasking. This has always been the case, but it’s even worse now than usual. If she’s cooking and you say something to her, she literally won’t be able to process what you said.

My dad also is letting little things get to him, such as how long the water is on at the sink or In the shower. He’s been demanding that I take 2 minute showers or less, and for me that’s not possible. Also, he’s been getting more jaded and will ignore any form of encouragement from anybody.

I know that solely based on what I wrote it doesn’t seem like that big of a deal, but to me it is. I love my parents and I care about their mental and emotional health as well as physical.

If you reading believe in some kind of God, I would sincerely appreciate prayer. Thank you.


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17 comments

  1. music2799 Day Captain

    Hi colton95,
    I’m so sorry that your parents are going through this. Sometimes this can happen when we’re exhausted, whether it be physically, mentally, or emotionally. I think helping them out could alleviate some stress as well as let them know that you care about them.
    I’m glad that you’ve noticed how your parents are doing. It shows that you’re a loving and caring person, which are great qualities to have. It is a big deal when the people we care about are stressed, and it can be hard to cope with. Your feelings are valid.
    Thank you for the update. I hope your parents feel better soon, and I’m happy that you’re feeling better. Please update us if you would like to, and we’re always here for you!

  2. Erin O'Callaghan Day Captain

    I’m sorry things are rough with your parents-you’re a great kid for caring so much! How are things going now? I hope everything is okay-thanks for coming back to share.

    Erin

  3. Brianna W Volunteer Volunteer

    I’m sorry to hear that things have been stressful, maybe there is something you can to help around the home. Try to talking to your mom and dad and tell them you want to help if you’re okay with that. Can’t wait to hear from you again.

    -Brianna

  4. Alyssa Day Captain

    Hi colton95,
    I’m sorry your parents are stressed. Maybe you can help them out some way to make things easier for them. You can help your mom cook or something. Try talking to them to see if they want to talk about this.
    Happy you are feeling better!
    -Alyssa

  5. eagle206 Volunteer

    Hi Colton95,

    Thank you for coming back to update us on your story. We are always here for you. I’m sorry to hear that your mum has been stressed out recently. Maybe you could help her cook dinner some nights to help take some load off her shoulders? It could give her a chance to breathe at night. That does seem way too demanding of your dad. My dad used to stress about the water bill too, it’s frustrating not feeling like you can take a normal timed shower. Sending prayers to you.

    Stay strong,
    Tyler

  6. Jess Volunteer

    It’s awesome that you noticed this change in your parents. A lot of people just go day to day and never noticed their loved ones mental health changes. If you’re comfortable, even just casually lending a listening ear to them would probably be helpful. Let them know you’re there for them if they need anything. Just be present and listen.

    I hope you’re able to find an approach you’re comfortable with. Sending good thoughts your way. Stay strong. <3
    -Jess

  7. mkyuellig Volunteer

    Hey Colton,

    I think it’s a good thing that you noticed this about your parents. It’s very easy to not notice when our parents are struggling with something, because they are the parents, after all, and it’s their “job” to help us, not the other way around? Not so much, I have found as I am getting older. Is it possible there is a stress that your parents are struggling with that they haven’t mentioned to you? Is that something you would feel comfortable mentioning to either of your parents casually, just saying something like “Hey you guys seem a little bit stressed lately, is there anything I can do to help?” something like that. Sometimes just knowing that someone is paying attention to you and is there for you is helpful in stressful times. I will be sending you and your parents so light and positive energy.

    Stay strong and be gentle with yourself,
    Keight

  8. Marissa Day Captain

    Hey Colton,

    Thanks for updating us again. I’m glad to hear that you’re doing better! It’s probably kind of frustrating that you’re having such a disconnect from your parents, and I’m sorry you’re going through that. Definitely keeping you and your family in my thoughts! Things will get better, I promise. Keep your head up!

    Marissa

  9. Bluebell13 Volunteer

    Dear colton95,
    Sending positive thoughts and vibes to your parents<3 It is difficult to see people you love go through a rough time; we want to be able to help and make things better, but sometimes the best thing we can do is remain calm and let them know they are appreciated.
    Sending you love and strength,
    Roxie

  10. Julia Mandel Day Captain

    Hi Colton95, I am sorry your parents are having a tough time right now. Have you tried to talk to them about it at all? Maybe voicing your concerns will make them realize something is wrong? We are thinking of you and hope things get better soon. Stay strong <3

  11. CarmenR Volunteer

    Hi there,

    I’m glad to hear that you are doing okay, but I’m sorry about your parents. Whatever they are going through, they wil get through it. Just try to be there for them. You are so strong. We are here for you. Thinking of you, and sending positive thoughts your way.

    Carmen

  12. Lizzi Volunteer

    Hey colton95,
    I’m sorry that your parents are going through such a hard time. I can imagine it’s hard to see this happening and feel somewhat helpless. Any kind of change or difficult situation can really affect the whole family, and it sounds like your parents are each showing their stress in different ways. Like others said, I would just try to help out where you can and maybe try to find little things you can do to make each of their days a little easier if that’s possible. It may also just take time for them to sort out what they’re going through, and that’s okay. Everyone handles things in their own way. You take care of yourself and you’ll all be in my prayers.

    Much hope,
    Lizzi

  13. Megan Volunteer

    Hey colton95,

    I’m glad that you are doing okay! I am sorry to hear about your parents though. Maybe just try to help them out when you can? I feel like even just them knowing that you care about them will be helpful.

    Sending positive vibes your way,
    Megan

  14. Graciegrace22

    Hello,

    It seems like its been a rough time within your home environment. It can be difficult to feel as though you have no control over the chaos going on around you. Just know all of at a voice for the innocent are here for you and are here to support you through this tough time. Just know none of this is your fault and I hope you are able to get some relief.

  15. candyappleb Volunteer

    Hi Colton95,

    I’m sorry to hear that your parents are struggling right now. I understand how stressful it can be to watch people you love struggling and not really know why or what you can do to help. Remember that just because you care for them, doesn’t mean that you are responsible for their emotional state. It’s not your job to “fix” anything for them, nor is it your fault that they are struggling. Hang in there. We’re here for you anytime you need us.

    All the best,
    Becca

  16. Solongago

    Dads sometimes get a bug up their butt and can be difficult to deal with at times. Sometimes every thing you touch they have something to say about it. I don’t know why this is, but it seems to be a cycle. At least with my dad. So it gets better. If it just gets worse and worse. I would be very concerned. Usually, this happens when they are not feeling good about themselves or have some serious worry going on, like their company is on the block and they may lose their job, or worried about Mom’s health issue, or just about anything serious can cause this sort of stuff. Guys are not generally encouraged to talk about what is bothering them and how they feel about it, so all that crap doesn’t go away, it just leaks out, usually on people they care most about, and that tends to make them confused and upset (both parties).

    If showering gets your dad in a tizzy, can you do that at a time when he isn’t home, or when he is otherwise occupied?

  17. Northlane1991 Volunteer

    Hey I am glad you are doing better and for your parents try talking with your parents after a few days and once it all cools off. Sometimes space is what they need. Keep us posted and know we are here for you!