I think I’ve been stuffing down my feelings just to get through each day. In the past few years, I’ve been better at acknowledging my feelings and coming up with solutions, but that has not been easy for me in the past couple of weeks. 

I’m upset today. I think I’m overwhelmed about what’s going on in the world, not feeling social (I’m in an internship in which we have a lot of meetings. It’s a great internship, but I’m usually tired of talking at the end of each day), missing my friends, and dealing with my insecurities. I’ve been feeling like this for a week or two. I’ve been quieter around my family because the weight of everything is exhausting.

My parents were asking me what was wrong, and I didn’t want to tell them. I told them that nothing was wrong, and they kept pushing me to tell them. Eventually, they got upset with me for not telling them. They told me I wasn’t acting like an adult and that there was no point of looking upset if I wasn’t going to tell them the reason. 

I know they want to know what’s going on. However, when they keep asking for the reason after I put a boundary in place, I feel even less inclined to tell them. It feels like a violation of my boundaries, if that makes sense. I explained that to them. They asked me this: if I was in their place (and they were in mine), wouldn’t I want to know what was going on with them? I would. However, if they made it clear that they didn’t want to talk, I wouldn’t keep asking. I would check on them throughout the day, but I wouldn’t keep asking for the reason. They didn’t seem to understand; they seemed to think that I wouldn’t care at all, which isn’t true. I don’t want to disrespect people’s boundaries. I want people to voluntarily confide in me instead of feeling pressured to explain what’s going on.

I don’t tell them why I’m upset because I feel they’ll invalidate me, and I’m especially sensitive to invalidation from them. They’ve told me in so many ways – directly and indirectly – that I’m too sensitive. I guess not telling them how I feel is a way of protecting myself. Now I’m thinking that I could have explained the reason why I don’t talk about my feelings. Maybe it would have opened up a conversation. I feel bad about not telling them the reason, and I keep wondering if I was being immature.

I kind of feel frustrated with myself about how I’ve been handling everything. I know that my feelings are valid, but I keep doubting myself and wondering if I’m too sensitive. I’m trying to be better at communicating and listening, and I think I’m doing okay when it comes to the people I trust. It’s really difficult with the people I don’t trust. I’m also thinking, “communication is great, but what if the other person isn’t willing to listen?” 

That’s where I’m at right now. I’ll try my best to focus on the good things and schedule in some time for myself. It might help me feel better.


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  1. Jordan Volunteer

    Dear music2799,

    It is great to hear from you again. <3 I totally agree about scheduling some time in for yourself! You need that self care up to the max. It sounds like you could really use that right now. I can also empathize with you about feeling exhausted after talking to people all day, it is hard putting yourself out there like that. It is almost like acting, having to say the same things to different people day in and day out, it can be too much sometimes. At the end of the day, all you could do or want to do- is sleep. Some days are easier than others, but regardless it can be tolling.
    As for your parents, maybe that is what is going on exactly. Perhaps you don't fully trust your parents, therefore, you don't feel comfortable confiding to them about what is going on and what you are feeling. It can be hard not to wear your emotions on your sleeve sometimes. Sure, they might wanna know what is going on because they are concerned, but it is clear that you are more concerned about them not actually taking what you feel seriously. I am sorry that you continue to be in this predicament with your parents. I truly hope that things will lighten up soon. Thinking of you and sending love, and hugs your way. <3

    – Jordan

  2. pvb Volunteer

    Hi music2799,

    I am just reading your post for the first time today. Thank you for sharing your emotions! Your situation is very relatable and scheduling in that time for yourself is much needed! It is okay not to want to speak at times especially if you don’t feel comfortable speaking at the moment. It definitely is okay that you are feeling this way during this time with everything going on in the world. It is tough to cope with all that is going on but I am very glad you found a space to come and express yourself. Maybe even if talking it out isn’t something you want to do, journaling is always a great tool too. I have recently started because I have down times where I do not want to tell anyone whats going on or can’t even explain how I’m feeling out loud so I write it down to allow myself to get some of those emotions off my chest. I hope you find that mechanism that works best for you during your time to yourself and hopefully you come back and share what you’ve done for some self care. I wish you the best ! 🙂

  3. eagle206 Volunteer

    Hi music2799,

    Thank you for coming back with an update. I’m sorry to hear that the last couple of weeks have been difficult for you. The world is quite a stressful place right now, which makes it hard to work on things internally. I’ve been going for long walks to try and create a healthy space for me to think, you may want to try that! So exciting to hear you have an internship. It sounds like your parents want to help, though they shouldn’t get mad if you’re not ready to talk about something. Hopefully, they give you some space to let you process before you talk about it. Maybe explaining to them that you don’t fully know whats going on will help them understand that. Don’t be too hard on yourself. The world is a little more stressful these last few months and we are all trying to cope with this. You are doing a great job. Scheduling time for yourself sounds like a great idea!

    Stay strong,

    Ty

  4. Jay Volunteer

    Hi music2799!

    I really liked your post because it shows maturity. You are mature enough to understand when to talk about things and when to not. I am glad your parents are concerned about your mood and how you feel, and it is valid for you to not want to talk about the things that are bothering you. Just keep in mind that there are people here for you including us for ears to listen and to get advice. Thank you for sharing your story with us and I would continue to work on making yourself happy. Making time for yourself is also important and focus on the positive things and people in your life. The communication will get there just don’t force anything like people shouldn’t force you to talk.

  5. Turnschaosintoart Day Captain

    Hey Music
    It has been a weird last few months. I understand you may be feeling a bit off. I am sorry for how you parents are reacting. It is good you put a boundary in place. Boundaries are good. You don’t need to tell them why you are upset all they really need to know is that you will be ok and you are safe. You are not too sensitive. I believe there is no such thing, You are doing your best. I hope things get better and you begin to feel better. Sending positive vibes

    Kristin

  6. nessa1695 Volunteer

    Hey there,
    The world is definitely in a weird place right now so much going on it weighs heavy on our already heavy hearts. I don’t think you’re immature for feeling down and not wanting to speak on it. It’s very hard to open up to people who often invalidate you or give you reason to think they will invalidate you. You are not “too sensitive” you are human and feel your emotions don’t let their insensitivity make you feel bad about your emotions. Parents have our best interest in their mind but don’t always execute it perfectly and it affects us more than they know, but you have to remember that they are also human and not perfect. Just practice a bit of patience with them and self care for your self during these trying times.
    Thank you for keeping us updated.
    Sending love, Nessa.

  7. Dayana143 Volunteer

    Hi music2799!
    Trying to solve your own problems is a good thing, but you’re right it can be difficult. I give you props for attempting that! I’m glad you came to AVFTI we are here to listen to you and anything you’re going through.
    You are not ” too sensitive” there is no such thing. Some people express their feelings more openly than others, and I honestly believe that its good to be open about your feelings. Holding in your feelings can be draining, and exhausting.
    Don’t be frustrated! You are human, and you are finding ways to help you. Nothing wrong with that.
    When you are ready you should open up that conversation, and tell them how you feel. Our parents were raised different so they don’t always understand how feel or how we express our feelings. You are doing great, and I hope things get better for you.

  8. brookeallnutt Volunteer

    Hi music2799,

    It’s definitely a crazy time in the world, and it’s totally normal to feel overwhelmed. I’m sorry that your parents aren’t respecting your boundaries, and I hope that they will be considerate of your feelings. Also, scheduling in time for yourself is always a good idea! We’re always here for you if you need someone to listen to you!

  9. avahalliday Volunteer

    Hi music2799,

    Thank you for sharing with us. This is a crazy time in the world right now and it is understandable that you are feeling overwhelmed. Would it be possible to take a day away from your internship to decompress and have some “you time”? You mentioned scheduling in some time for yourself and I think that is a really great idea!

    Your boundaries are perfectly reasonable and I am sorry that your parents are not respecting them. You are in control of when, where, and how much you share, and you should’t be made to feel too sensitive if you aren’t feeling ready to talk.

    I hope you start to feel a bit better soon <3

    Ava

  10. Jess Volunteer

    I’m sorry that your parents aren’t respecting your boundaries. You have every right to feel frustrated and you are not being overly sensitive at all. As others have said, with the stress of everything right now, it is so easy to become overwhelmed. Keep fighting for your boundaries the best that you can. If you don’t feel comfortable talking about something with someone, don’t force yourself to. You have every right to set boundaries and expect them to be respected. In the meantime, make sure you are doing lots of self-care and practicing your coping skills. Many others below have suggested great resources for both of those things. If you need any other resources, please reach out. We are always here for you and we believe you. Thank you for continuing to update us. Stay strong and keep fighting. <3
    -Jess

  11. Bluebell13 Volunteer

    Dear music2799,
    You are not overly sensitive. There is so much happening right now and it is easy to become overwhelmed and exhausted by it; especially if you are the type of person who is impacted by the energy of others. Insight Timer (just the free version) or YouTube have some great meditations for grounding yourself and I always find them helpful. It is also normal to have boundaries with others, even your parents, in order to maintain your own well-being. You are under no obligation to discuss your emotions with anyone. It is good to find a way to express them, but that can be with a journal, a pet, a friend, or yourself in the car. Keep breathing, you’ve got this!
    Sending you love and strength,
    Roxie

  12. Starling Volunteer

    Hi music2799,
    Thank you for continuing to share your story with us. I’m sorry that you’re struggling with this right now. It’s totally okay to set boundaries, and not want to talk about your feelings with people you don’t trust. You don’t have to express your feelings if you don’t want to, no matter what the reasoning is. Since you were considering the idea, it might be a good idea to talk about why you don’t feel comfortable sharing with them. If you ever need anything, let us know. We’re always here for you.

  13. rachelb098 Volunteer

    Hi there,

    I’m hearing that you’re feeling overwhelmed, and that’s completely understandable. It sounds like you’ve got an incredible amount on your shoulders, and you’re strong for pushing through! It must be frustrating not to get the space you need right now from your parents. Carving out some time for yourself and focusing on the good sounds like a great plan, and shows how resilient and insightful you are. It takes real strength to make your wellbeing priority, and I’m impressed with how well you know yourself and what you need at this tough time.

    Wishing you all the best!

    -Rachel

  14. Julia Mandel Day Captain

    Thank you for reaching out to us. It is completely fair to have boundaries and be sensitive; this in no way makes you immature or selfish. Talking about sensitive subjects and past traumas can be very difficult and this is completely normal. I am sorry that you are feeling pressured by them to talk about something you aren’t comfortable sharing with them yet. Maybe it would help to have a talk about how you feel invalidated by them sometimes and feel uncomfortable when they continue to ask. you to share your feelings. You could also try to speak to a counselor about the best way to approach that as well since maybe they would have some good suggestions for you, or you could even tell your parents with the therapist in the room to help facilitate the conversation. Your feelings are valid and you have the right to tell, or not tell, whomever you want. Stay strong and know that we are here for you whenever you need us <3

  15. dzreid Volunteer

    Hi there!
    Sometimes it’s ok to be not ok! I think by you setting boundaries with your parents, is a strong factor. Not everyone is able to set healthy boundaries. I’m sorry your parents aren’t more receptive & respecting your wishes. I believe that just because you may look “sad” doesn’t always mean you have to share what’s going on! If you choose to tell what’s going on, then do so for you not because of pressures placed on you! I also think that making time for ourselves is a critical part in our healing. You deserve time to yourself. I hope your parents will come to a place where they can respect you for you & not be so demanding. I’m sorry they have placed you in a position to cause you to feel so frustrated! Unfortunately, we can’t control how others choose to or not to communicate. All we can do is focus on ourselves & carry on the thoughts that we are worth it. I think sometimes being sensitive can be a good thing. Take it day by day. You will come through this! You can do it! Believe in you! I do! Wishing you a better week.
    Dawn

  16. lizzi

    Hey music2799,
    It’s okay that you’re going through a tough time. It sounds like there’s a lot going on right now, and the world is a very different place right now so I don’t think you’re alone in feeling like life is harder right now. I’m sorry that your parents are pushing you to talk about things that you don’t want to discuss, and that they’re pushing that boundary you put up. If you don’t want to talk about something, you don’t have to. You’re allowed to look upset even if you don’t want to tell anyone why. Keeping boundaries is a sign of emotional maturity in adulthood, so don’t let them make you feel like you’re less of an adult for not giving in. You’re right that your feelings are valid, and I don’t think you need to be frustrated with yourself for any of this. I hope things start to get better for you soon.

  17. aegardiner Volunteer

    Hi music2799,

    It is totally understandable to feel how you’re feeling. Everything that has been going on has felt overwhelming and sometimes we just need time to process things to ourselves. Even when people have the best intentions and care about us, it can be frustrating when they push us to talk about things when we’re not ready. There are times when my family members are not quite the people I want to talk to, but a good friend is a better fit for how I’m feeling and what I want to discuss – maybe you have someone like that? You need to take care of yourself and if you feel like you want to keep to yourself then you are not wrong. It is good to know though, that you have people who are concerned about you and who will, hopefully, be ready to listen to you when you are ready. Let’s hope that this upcoming week is a better week and that we can feel like things are not as heavy as they have been recently. Take care!

  18. Natalie M Day Captain

    Hi there,

    Thank you for coming back to give us an update. I am sorry that you are having a rough week. There are so many crazy things going on in our world right now, and on top of the virtual meetings, it can all be very exhausting. Please know you are not alone! also, I completely understand you wanting to set boundaries with your parents. It is your right to talk with them when and if you are comfortable with it! I am glad that you know your feelings are valid, it is okay to need time before you are ready to discuss things. Be patient with yourself! You are making great progress! Keep at it! We are here for you!

    Stay strong,
    Natalie

  19. Amysue43 Volunteer

    Thanks for sharing with us your feelings and concerns with us. We want to support you and be here for you. It’s okay to want some space to manage your own feelings. You have a safe plan – you would like some privacy and time to think to yourself. Perhaps, informing your family about this would help them grasp your perspective better. Of course they want to know and you understand that perspective given their explanation; however, you know what will work best for you. If that’s just some time and to check in later, then so be it. But your family won’t know that unless you tell them. This is where that communication you had talked about would come into play.
    In terms of the frustration you’re having with handling everything on your own and doubting yourself, it might be helpful to start journaling more often. Perhaps this could help you grasp your thoughts and feelings better as well as clear your mind and lift that weight off your shoulders. It could be beneficial to help with self-awareness and coming to conclusions about what works for you and what doesn’t. It could also be good practice when it comes to talking to your family, perhaps that could be your first journal entry; your “me-time.”
    Stay strong <3

  20. Marissa Day Captain

    Hi music2799,

    Thanks for sharing with us again. I’m so sorry you’re having such a tough time dealing with your emotions. It sounds like you’re a bit overwhelmed – would it be possible to take a mental health day from your internship and just take some time to yourself? Or maybe just spend some time with a friend over a weekend so you don’t have to deal with your parents bothering you? I can understand why you didn’t really want to voice your feelings to your parents. It’s tough to decide between telling your parents and potentially feeling invalidated vs holding your feelings in. I hope you know that you can vent here whenever you need to, though. We’re here for you! Stay strong. You can pull through this.

    Marissa

  21. candyappleb Volunteer

    Hi music2799,

    I’m sorry that you’re feeling frustrated with yourself. I think your boundaries are very reasonable, and I don’t believe you’re being immature. You shouldn’t have to explain your boundaries, especially to your parents. It’s okay to be frustrated especially with the feelings of invalidation. I think you’re doing a great job. Hang in there! We’re here for you.

    All the best,
    Becca

  22. haesol Volunteer

    Hi, music2799

    Thank you for coming back to update us. The current situation is very stressful, it’s understandable that it’s taking atoll on you too on top of your other worries.

    As for the communication–it’s so complex and yet simple sometimes, I guess it depends on each case. Establishing boundaries can be tough when it comes to do so with parents, I’m sorry that they don’t seem to understand your actions and intentions, but I hope they’ll come around and give you a bit of space too. You probably know them better than anyone else, so be sure of your own instincts, this way you can decide when and if you want to open up to them.

    I’m glad you are aware of how valid your feelings are, that’s so important. It’s okay to doubt sometimes, that doesn’t mean you aren’t doing a good job or handling things well.

    I hope you can have that time for yourself, it might help, as you said. Please update again if you’d like, we are always here to listen and help!

    I wish you the best,

    Sol.

  23. Edjay Volunteer

    Hi music2799,

    Thanks for the update. It’s definitely hard trying to establish boundaries, even more so with parents. It’s terrible that they aren’t seeing your point of view that you just aren’t ready to share what’s happening with them. You’re absolutely right that it’s better for people to voluntarily confide to someone rather than pressuring them to share. It sounds like you are thinking of ways to help them better understand why you don’t feel comfortable talking about your feelings yet, hopefully that does open up a conversation between you all if you decide to do that. It’s good to hear that you are planning on scheduling some time for yourself–I hope it does help you feel better. Take care.

    Edjay

  24. jcas120 Volunteer

    Hello Music2799,

    Thank you for coming by to share more with us. I’m really glad you are here. I’m sorry to hear about the recent events. These are really tough times and it’s okay not to feel social and miss your friends. I’m also sorry to hear about your parents lack of support. From your recent stories, I know that they aren’t understanding of what you’ve been through. You are 100% in control of who you share your emotions with and if you feel like they won’t be understanding, you don’t need to share. You made a brave choice that was good for your mental health and well being.

    You always do such a good job of expressing your emotions with us. I hope that our responses can help you out and that the good things on your schedule and the time for yourself are therapeutic. Thanks for coming by!

  25. Erin O'Callaghan Day Captain

    Thank you for coming back to share. I’m sorry things are so tough right now-I know that the current climate is making it really hard to deal with our trauma and it’s impacts. I’m sorry that your parents can be pushing of your boundaries-it’s okay to feel upset about that. If you feel ready to open up a conversation with them, then you can do that, but if you’re not, that’s okay too. You can always come back here to share, and yes, schedule some time for yourself!

    Erin

  26. Ashley Day Captain

    Hello music2799,

    It’s understandable that the current events of the world, not having the desire to be social, wanting to reconnect with your friends, and confronting your insecurities are contributing to the feeling of being overwhelmed.
    It’s not okay that your parents pushed you to confide in them; as you mentioned, this is a violation of the boundaries you set. After someone states that they don’t want to discuss what’s on their mind, it’s reasonable to stop asking about what’s bothering them. I’m sorry that your parents didn’t understand the point you were trying to get across. The fear you have of them invalidating you isn’t abnormal because I recall they have done this in the past. To me, you weren’t being immature. The next time that they push you to tell them what’s wrong, I encourage you to express the reason why you don’t want to tell them to see where the conversation goes.

    Take care of yourself,

    Ashley

  27. rohina_kumar Volunteer

    Hello music2799,

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I understand how frustrating this experience must be for you, considering the mental exhaustion you’re already going through due to these uncertain times. I understand that it must be hard for you to open up to your parents, especially due to the fact that you’ve felt like they’ve invalidated you in the past, and you fear being judged for being “too sensitive”. And I’m really glad that you’re pushing yourself and trying your best to become a better communicator and listener – that is great progress and an amazing initiative from your end. I’m really proud of you for doing that. Regardless of what your parents are telling you right now, I want you to do everything at your pace and not feel pressured to do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing. Take a few steps forward as fast or as slow as you want. At the end of the day, it is you who gets to decide what is best for your personal growth and you get to decide if you want to share what you’re feeling with your parents. However, I do recommend sharing the feelings of invalidation you’ve felt from discussions with your parents in the past because I can tell they are important to you from how much their opinions and remarks are affecting you right now. But again, that is your decision to make and do it at your own time. Although they might be upset at the moment, I’m sure they’ll eventually understand where you’re coming from and things will fall into place.

    As for the “too sensitive” remarks, I understand how you feel because I get a lot of those too. I just want to say that there is nothing wrong with how you feel about certain things. Whether your feelings are too extreme or not, at the end of the day, you are entitled to feel whatever you want, even if you feel there is no particular reason behind it. If you’ve opened up to people about things you feel bad about and they still don’t respect the fact that certain things/remarks affect you negatively, they are not worth your time. Being sensitive means that you’re not only addressing the situation, but also addressing how it’s impacting you, your life and your decisions.

    Congratulations on landing an internship you’re enjoying by the way. Although, I just want to say it is possible to feel burned out of something for a while (even if you enjoy doing) and I want you to know that that is completely normal. I understand that you’re feeling overwhelmed, given the lingering uncertainty in our surroundings. Just take it one day at a time. Something I’ve personally been following is doing something new every single day so I have something to look forward to everyday – whether it’s a good book, listening to a new album, cooking something new, learning a new dance routine, basically anything. Personally, I think trying to having new experiences everyday contributes a lot towards your personal growth and getting to know yourself better, which eventually helps your insecurities too. It’s very easy to be consumed in our dark thoughts at a time like this, but I just want you to know that we’re all here to support you and your betterment.

  28. Solongago Volunteer

    Hi music2799,

    I think you need to trust yourself. I think your answer is in what you posted, that you were afraid to tell them because they have a history of invalidating you, and you are particularly sensitive to what they think of you. I don’t think you should be upset with yourself for not telling them this. A lot of times the decisions we make when we are feeling bad, we regret later on, and not opening a discussion with them when you are feeling however you were, well, I think that is evidence of growth and maturity — you may regret a little having not started the conversation, but you may regret a lot if that conversation turned into an angry invalidating of you by them. I don’t know that that would have happened, but if it did, then you would be feeling a lot worse. And I think you protected yourself, because you could step back in the moment and say, “this is what they are going to do.” And I am no expert, but I think that is a lot of progress. I am sorry that you can’t get support from your family. Thank you for sharing here. I hope it helps to write it down, and I hope that you can get some of the support you would like to get from your family from us. I hope that you can take care of yourself with regards to the internship as well. I don’t know what works best for you, but if can find some way to either feel more rested or relaxed so you can come at the internship with more energy or less stress, maybe that can help. Sometimes, it can be helpful to give part of the truth to people like your family, when they ask. You don’t have to tell them everything, just that you are really exhausted, and maybe that would be enough to satisfy their concerns without putting so much out there that if they were to be insensitive that it would hurt you.

  29. musicislove

    Hi music2799,

    I’m sorry you’ve been struggling more lately. Everything going on in the world is crazy right now and it’s totally understandable to be overwhelmed by it all. I definitely understand not feeling social, it’s hard dealing with so much throughout the day when you’re already feeling stressed. I’m sorry your parents haven’t respected your boundaries; you’re not required to tell them how you’re feeling if you don’t want to and they should be okay with that. Worrying that they’ll invalidate your feelings is understandable and it’s okay to not want to open up to them because of that. Your feelings are yours to share if and when you want. I’m glad you’re going to take some time for yourself this week, I hope that it helps. We’re here for you!

    Delaney

  30. Alyssa Day Captain

    Hi music2799,
    I’m so sorry that things have been hard for you. I know things right now are crazy and unimaginable. Things will get better hopefully soon and things will change for the better.
    If you don’t want to talk about why you are upset to your parents, you don’t have to. You can talk about your feeling with whoever and whenever you want. You have every right to not want to talk to them about how you feel especially if you think they might invalidate you. You should never be worried about feeling invalidated when talking to anyone about your feelings.
    Continue to think positively. You are strong.
    -Alyssa

  31. tolleytn Volunteer

    music2799,

    Thank you so much for sharing with us. I am very proud of you in trying to acknowledge your feelings instead of letting them subside. Given the current climate, I totally relate to the feeling of social exhaustion.

    I’m so sorry your parents responded the way they did. You should never feel obligated to share how you’re feeling if you are not ready to do so. I don’t think that you are being too sensitive, your feelings are completely valid. Taking the time to take care of yourself is a great idea! Best of luck to you and I hope to hear again from you soon.

    – Tiffany

  32. rkr18 Volunteer

    Hello Music2799,

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings about what you are experiencing. I’m sorry you are feeling overwhelmed it is a tough time right now with all the things going on in this world. However, I am proud of you for recognizing where you are at emotionally and your surroundings. I agree with you that you should focus on good things and time with yourself.

    Please continue to keep us updated we are always here for you.
    -Marie

  33. colton95 Volunteer

    Your feelings ARE valid, and you are NOT being “too” sensitive at all. I think that it’s great that you are trying to remain positive and focusing on good things. I hope that your parents will grow and learn to understand you, and that you will be okay and safe during these tough times.

  34. Thomas Volunteer

    Hey music2799,

    Thanks for the update and I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Healing has its ups and downs. Don’t be so hard on yourself. It’s okay to be sensitive to your feelings. That doesn’t mean you’re being “too” sensitive. As you said, you are working on being better at communicating and listening. You are doing great! But it is okay to take your time on trusting people. Just take it one day at a time. I’m sorry your parents aren’t more supportive. You have every reason to be hesitant about their invalidation. It is okay to take your time. You should only do what you are comfortable doing. You need to do what is best for you. That is what is the most important. Please let us know how else we can help. Stay strong.

    Thomas

  35. sfmbelle413 Day Captain

    Hey there music2799,

    I hear you. I’m there too – I feel sad, frustrated, and whatever other emotions go along with those. What you’re feeling is completely valid and you deserve to hold on to those feelings if you want to – you don’t owe anyone an explanation of how you’re feeling. Parents want to protect their children so it’s understandable that they want to know what’s going on, but it is important you guys follow the boundaries you put in place. I’m proud of you for having those boundaries and sticking to them. You’re not immature for not telling them – you’re doing the best for yourself.

    I’m also proud of you for scheduling time for yourself. We all need that right now. We need to be easy on ourselves, allow ourselves time to process, grieve, and understand all that is going on in this crazy world. Keep on being kind to yourself. You know you best.

    Sending light your way,
    SFM

  36. KatherineL Volunteer

    Hey Music2799,

    Your feelings are completely valid. You should be proud of yourself for recognizing your boundaries and sticking to them. That’s not always easy to do especially when it’s family pressuring you. Remember that you don’t owe anyone sharing your feelings if you don’t want to – do what is right for you because you’re the only one that knows what is best for you. I also want to put out there that I do not think you’re “too sensitive”. Sensitivity is a wonderful thing (a strength in my opinion) and calling someone too sensitive is a way to try and push past their boundaries or invalidate their feelings. I think you should feel good about being sensitive. I echo what others say – take care of yourself, focus on yourself, and stay strong. You got this!

    KatherineL

  37. zelda Volunteer

    I understand where you’re coming from. I’ve been feeling really down on myself because I feel as if I’m not doing enough, I’m too sensitive, or I’m not assertive enough. These constant thoughts have a huge impact on my mood, and lately I’ve been feeling very mentally exhausted and emotionally drained. I feel crappy or angry when I don’t feel completely numbed out. As survivors and people who struggle with mental health, we have to work, at times, 3x harder to do the everyday tasks that “normal” people do with ease. Don’t beat yourself up when your internal dialogue turns self-defeating or self-loathing. Don’t be ashamed of who you are and the boundaries you’re setting in place. That takes inner strength and assertiveness! We all have bad days, sometimes bad weeks, or even months. But the important thing to remember is to not let those moments define how you view yourself and how you plan to live your life and conquer your goals. You’re on your own road to recovery and self-discovery. You’re figuring out how to handle certain situations and emotions in a way that’s going to protect you and be beneficial for you. There’s nothing wrong with that, and don’t let anyone, not even your family, tell you differently. At the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for you. If you don’t want to talk about things that bother you to people who may invalidate you or judge you, then you have that choice, free will, and right. When and if the time comes, you can let your loved ones know what is going on. For now, just take a deep breath and tell yourself that you will get through this trying time because you are strong, independent, and, most importantly, a survivor.

  38. Northlane1991 Volunteer

    Hey Friend

    I am so sorry your parents are not understanding. Have you reached out to other friends and or family member to express yourself? you can also reach out on here and know we are here for you. You are not alone and people do care. Do some selfceare and set up a schedule. We care for you and please take care of yourself. Sometimes its understandable to doubt yourself and know we are here for you and care for you.