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Hey guys. I apologize I haven’t updated anyone since my last post. I’ve been busy with work, and didn’t have the time to update. Any way, my dad had to go back to work since his job is keeping him busy due to the covid pandemic, but luckily I’ll be seeing him within a couple of weeks, and maybe I will tell him eventually.


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48 comments

  1. VolunteerNem Volunteer

    Hello Jamie Marie,
    You don’t have to apologize because we will always be here. I am glad you will see your dad soon, also hope the conversation goes well. Thank you for the update and stay safe.

  2. coachdiggs Volunteer

    Hello Jamie Marie,
    First I wanted to say thank you for sharing your updated. I also wanted to say you do not need to apologize ever to us. Just know that we will always be here for you and we will not judge you any way. Lastly, I wanted to say thank for you sharing your story again.
    Kevin

  3. Lusine05 Volunteer

    Hello Jamie Marie,

    No need to apologize to us. We appreciate that you are sharing with us. Thank you a lot! Take as much time as you need, and meantime we are going to be here for you! Whatever and whenever you decide to do, we got your back.

    with love
    -L

  4. Chloe-Barnett Volunteer

    Hey Jamie,
    Thank you for keeping us updated. I am sorry that you haven’t had the chance to have that conversation with your dad but I am glad that you will be able to see him soon. Having more time before you tell him could help you decide on how to tell him and what exactly to say. I hope that all goes well and keep your head up. I look forward to hearing an update from you if you feel comfortable sharing. As always we are always here for you whatever you need.

  5. ZJC9753 Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    Thank you for updating us! You have absolutely nothing to apologize for. This space is for you to share whenever you want to. I am sorry you haven’t had the chance to talk with him and tell him but I’m glad you will be able to see him soon! I hope that things are going well for you! We are here to listen to you with whatever you are comfortable sharing. Please come back and share whenever you would like! 🙂

  6. Marissa Day Captain

    Hey Jamie Marie,

    Thanks for giving us an update. No need to apologize! Remember, we are rooting for you through this. Stay strong! Follow your gut. Hope everything is well with you!

    Marissa

  7. candyappleb Day Captain

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    Thanks for the update! I’m sorry that you didn’t get to talk to your dad like you wanted to. Hopefully the next time you are able to see him the time will be right. Life can get hectic and busy for everyone. Hang in there!

    All the best,
    Becca

  8. lizzi

    Hi Jamie,
    No need to apologize at all. Life gets busy and it sounds like you’ve had a lot going on recently. I’m glad that you’ll be able to see your dad in the next few weeks and hopefully be able to talk to him about what happened. I hope you’re doing well and taking time to care for yourself! We’re here for you and look forward to future updates, whenever you have time.

  9. pinksky92 Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    Thanks for the update. I think it makes sense to take things at your own pace. This delay also gives you the time to think things through a little bit more in terms of how you’re going to approach it with him and how you’ll want to phrase things (if you do decide to tell him). Definitely take the time that you need, there is no rush. Just remember to do things on your own terms. I wish you all the best with this decision.

    Take care.

  10. brookeallnutt Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    Thank you for updating us! Take as long as you need to tell your dad. And if you decide that you don’t want to tell him, that’s definitely okay too because this is your choice. In the meantime, I hope you and your dad stay safe and healthy! We are always here for you whenever you want to share anything else. Take care!

  11. haesol Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    Thank you for the update! i hope you are doing well. Let us know how it goes when you meet him, and remember that if you decide not to tell him that’s alright too, take things at your own pace. With that said, if you do tell him, I hope everything goes well, I wish you the best!

    Stay safe.

  12. jcas120 Volunteer

    Hello Jamie,

    Thank you for coming here to give us an update. I hope you are doing well! I know that when the time is right you will be able to tell him. Being busy during this time is completely understandable. I know you are ready for whatever comes your way and we will be here for your next update! I hope you stay safe and healthy until then.

  13. musicislove

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    Being busy is completely understandable, and you should tell your dad whenever you’re ready to tell him, if that’s what you choose. It’s your experience and your story, so you get to decide who gets to know. Thank you for the update, and please come back anytime! Sending you hope.

    Delaney

  14. Thomas Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    In time you may be able to tell your dad. Until then, it is okay not to. You are healing at your own pace and on your own path. If it feels right, then do it. But you are doing great. Keep it up and thanks for the update!

  15. ajklessig Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,
    It is nice to hear from you! I have been thinking about you since your last post. It is totally understandable that you have been busy, and there is no need to apologize at all! I am glad all is well. If you do decide to tell your dad, good luck, you got it!

  16. jyoung Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    Thank you for the update, no need to apologize. We will continue to be here for you. I’m glad you will be seeing your dad soon and I wish you the best if you decide to tell him. Please remember this is on your terms. There is no rush, do whatever feels right to you. We look forward to hearing from you soon!

    Stay safe,

    Jasmine

  17. tania Volunteer

    Hey Jamie Marie,
    Thanks for the update and I hope you are continuing to do well! Good luck with telling your dad and remember it is your choice on when you tell him!
    -Tania

  18. AlisonDKaufman

    hello:

    Thanks for the update, we always appreciate hearing from you. Stay focused on your goal and take care of you!
    Ali

  19. chompyapple1 Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    It’s great to keep sharing and updating with us! Take as much time as you need to to talk with your dad. There’s no hurry and continue to be positive. Stay safe!

  20. Caitlin Volunteer

    Jamie Marie,

    I have been wondering about you and sending you good thoughts! You will do it when its the right time. There is no hurry or apology needed.

    Keep us posted and stay well.

    -Caitlin

  21. KatherineL Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    Thanks for the quick update. I was wondering about you! No need to apologize though, we know life can get busy. It’s totally okay for you to wait until what feels like the right time to tell your dad. There’s no rush or pressure, do what you feel is the best for you.

    KatherineL

  22. colton95 Volunteer

    You don’t have to apologize! I get being busy during these tough times; I definitely am. Sometimes I don’t even have time to read and comment on stories here no matter how hard I try. I hope that when you tell your dad that he will be understanding and that you will stay safe.

  23. jcastle38 Volunteer

    Hi there Jamie,

    Thank you for the quick update, I look forward to hearing from you soon and I am happy to hear that you are still wanting to tell him. I am glad you will be seeing your dad soon. We all hope to hear from you soon!! Best wishes.

  24. mikaylaanne11 Volunteer

    Hey Jamie Marie,

    Good to hear from you! I’m glad that you’re still ready to tell your dad your story, and I hope it goes well. We’re in your corner! Stay safe and healthy, and make sure to make time for yourself.

  25. Alyssa Day Captain

    Hi Jamie Marie,
    Thank you for updating us. It is good to hear back from you. Good luck telling your dad when you tell him. I know work can be so stressful even without having covid in the mix. Continue to find time to relax and have you time. Take your time telling your dad, too. You should tell him when you are ready and comfortable. Thanks again for updating us!
    -Alyssa

  26. Neesha Volunteer

    I hope you don’t feel pressured to update us or to talk to your father. I hope whatever and whenever you chose to do you will feel peace. No matter what I support you!

  27. alexiswilliams

    Jamie,

    Don’t feel pressured! We all love to be able to support you, but we understand that things take time and people get busy. Take your time!

    Sending love,
    Lex

  28. music2799 Day Captain

    Hi Jamie,
    It’s all right! You can update us whenever you feel like it. I hope you’ll be able to talk to your dad when the time is right for you. It’s okay if this takes time, and you can do what feels right for you. If you do tell him, I hope he’ll be supportive. You know your story, it wasn’t your fault, and we’re all here to believe and support you. Thank you for updating us, and I hope you’re having a wonderful week.

  29. Bluebell13 Volunteer

    Dear Jamie Marie,
    Ugh, it is hard when you have worked up the courage to have a difficult conversation and then it doesn’t happen. Do whatever is right for you. We will be here for you.
    Sending you love and strength,
    Roxie

  30. rachelb098 Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    No worries! We’re always here whenever you feel like sharing and whenever the timing feels right for you. I hope you had a great week, and stay safe!

    -Rachel

  31. Starling Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,
    Thank you for keeping us updated. There’s no need to apologize for the rate that you update us though. We’re here to listen whenever and however often you want. It’s fine that you haven’t talked to your dad yet. There’s no set timeline for this stuff, and things happen. Talk to him whenever the time feels right. I hope it goes well and that he supports you. If you ever need anything, let us know. We’re always here for you.

  32. eagle206 Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    No need to apologize, update at whatever pace makes the most sense for you! We are all here for you whenever you come back. Taking the time to tell him at a time that makes you feel safe and comfortable is best. No need to rush it. We will be with you the whole way.

    Stay strong,
    T

  33. dzreid Volunteer

    Hi there Jamie Marie,
    Thanks for the update! I believe when the time is right, the time will be there for you to share with your dad. Maybe, for whatever reason things didn’t work out for you to share at the time you wanted, it might of been a good reason. I wish you the best! Share only if you choose to, & remember when the time is right, everything will fall into place. I’m glad you were able to return to work! Continue taking care of you! Take some deep breaths when you do share with your dad, & take all the time you need.
    Dawn

  34. CarmenR Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    Thank you for coming back and providing us this update! I hope you are doing well, and remember you are always welcome here! Sending positive thoughts your way, and hoping that you are able to talk to your father when you are ready! There is no rush on telling him. It’s your story, and you decide who hears it. Stay strong.

    Carmen

  35. meg Day Captain

    Hi Jamie Marie!

    I was thinking about your previous post yesterday and am so glad to see this update today. How are you feeling? Are you finding time for rest and recovery from your time at work? There is no timeline for us for your conversation with your dad, do it when it feels right. We will be here for you no matter what.

    -Meg

  36. chandsey Volunteer

    Thank you for continuing to update us! I understand this is a very hard thing to process and do. Take your time and do it when you’re ready! We are all here for you and to help you succeed with this. Good luck!

    Lindsey

  37. Erin O'Callaghan Day Captain

    No worries! Thank you for coming to update us, and I hope you are still doing okay. Good luck with your dad, we are here for you.

    Erin

  38. jao1820 Volunteer

    Hey Jamie Marie,

    Thanks for keeping us updated, and theres no need to apologize! Tell your dad when you’re ready, dont pressure yourself to do it by a certain or at a certain place. When you feel ready to tell him, find a comfortable, quiet environment and share your story. Until then, stary strong and safe!

    – J.A.O.

  39. timms_andrew Volunteer

    Hey Jamie Marie,
    We are always here to support you if you need it, but you don’t have to say anything if you don’t want to! I am glad to hear you will see your dad soon, and I encourage you to share your feelings with him when you feel comfortable.

    Andrew

  40. Mary Ella Day Captain

    Hey Jamie Marie!

    Thank you for the update! You do not need to apologize at all. You can always share when you are ready, or when you feel like it is the right time. It seems like the original plan wasn’t the right time, and that is totally okay. I hope that it works out for you, and whatever the outcome of it is, we will be here to hear you out and support you.

    Mary

  41. morganndelacruz Volunteer

    Hey Jamie Marie,

    I am so glad to hear from you and you don’t need to apologize at all. When you are ready,
    you are ready and no rush about it at all. Do it at your own pace and time and we will still be here to listen.
    No matter what.

    Take your time and take care of yourself! <3

  42. sarahj Volunteer

    Hi Jamie Marie,
    No need to apologize!! Update whenever you feel the need, we are always here. Hopefully you have a chance to talk to your dad soon — if that is what you would like to do. I know the pandemic has made everything more hectic and stressful. I support your decision, no matter what it may be. If you ever need to share or bounce an idea — feel free to come back! Looking forward to hearing from you again.
    Stay strong,
    sarahj

  43. aegardiner Day Captain

    Hi Jamie Marie,

    So good to hear from you. We are honored that you want to keep us updated about your situation and that you would take the time to let us know how things have been going since you last posted. I’m sorry that your dad’s work schedule got in the way of your plan to talk to him. It can be really frustrating when we’ve worked up the courage to tell someone something and then the plan is foiled by external forces, but you will be ready when the time comes. The timing is always up to you. Even if he becomes less busy and you decide you are not ready, that’s okay too. If you need another pep talk or emotional boost before you do get around to talk to him – we’re always here. I hope you have a good week!

  44. t3nnis_player18 Volunteer

    Hey Jamie Marie,
    Thank you for keeping us updated on your situation with your dad! Im sorry you haven’t gotten a chance to speak to him about anything yet, that must be so nerve-racking! Hopefully you can tell him soon, but again if it doesn’t feel like the right time or you’re not comfortable then there is no rush to share that with him. Take your time and know everything will work itself out in the end! We are here for you!

  45. adrian Volunteer

    Hi, Jamie Marie-

    Thank you for providing an update. You can update whenever, on your time! No need to apologize; we’re just happy to know you have this space to express yourself in a safe way. It’s strong of you to reach out initially and again. We’re here for you!

    Take care,
    Adrian

  46. zelda Day Captain

    Hi, Jamie Marie! Thank you for giving us an update. I was actually just thinking about you the other day and wondering if you had told your dad or not. It’s okay if you keep your trauma to yourself. Telling your truth to another person is never easy, especially when they’re someone you really love and respect.

    When you feel it’s the right time to tell him, you tell him. Just don’t put any pressure on yourself, in the meantime.

    Stay safe, and stay healthy. We’re here for you any time you need us.

  47. Ashley Day Captain

    Jamie Marie,

    There’s no need to apologize; we’ll always be here each time you come back.

    When the time comes for the conversation with your dad, I hope that it goes well and that he responds in a supportive way.

    You deserve to feel supported.

    Ashley

  48. Solongago Volunteer

    I struggle with this too. My mom knows pretty much everything. And I kind of expected her to tell my dad, as they will be married 60 years this year, and are pretty close. But he either chose not to remember or doesn’t know. I mean, I told him some stuff but not who. And recently, things he has said makes me believe he does not know who. But telling him who, while that might make my life a little easier, because he will not press me as much into interacting with them, well, it is a difficult thing to do.

    Sometimes our brains protect us from things, and feeling that the time is not right, or that we shouldn’t tell someone, maybe that is because we are not ready for their response to what we say. Perhaps in the long run, we may feel some regret that we did not tell them in life. The fact is, there can always be the opportunity for regret. In the end we do what we can do in the timing that we have, and we forgive ourselves when we feel regret.

    No one can tell you what to do, because no one walks in your shoes. Some of us walk along similar paths, but really, we must, for ourselves, weigh the pros and cons of telling a specific individual anything and how much of a thing. We support whatever decision you make, because your decision is yours to make and no one knows you better than you.