I met with my new therapist yesterday hoping that she could help me work on developing skills to become more assertive when I find myself in compromising situations. She was a much older, very religious woman with strong moral values. I told her my story (see my earlier “Was this rape?” posts) and she seemed very sympathetic, but also judgmental. I mentioned that we were in the doggy style position and she said most women like to see their partner’s eyes during sex because it is more intimate. She also said in order to prevent being victimized again, I should not be discussing sex while I am texting a guy and not have sex with the guy I am dating for 6 months to ensure that what we both are feeling is more than lust. Honestly, I think she is way off base with this statement. It sounds like victim-blaming to me and it is a very unrealistic goal in today’s dating scene. I am interested to see what everyone’s thoughts are on this.