A quick (for me) update

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 I did see Angela today, and I forced myself to talk about both things or all three.  Whichever.  We talked about the coronavirus and how I felt dismissed.  And I said she jeered at me — I demonstrated.  She said she didn’t jeer but was being sarcastic, but she also apologized.  And we talked again about strength and I was able to talk more fully.  She suggested I read something by Brene Brown and talked about her work about how being vulnerable is really being strong.   And that you can only have a relationship if you are willing to be vulnerable and trust.     

Well, the therapy with Angela went well today.  That’s from 11 to 12.  I have to start work at 2:30, which gives me time to regroup.  Usually I have lunch at a restaurant and then stop at a store and shop a little.  But our state is shut down.  So I went to the grocery store and then on to work.   But they are practicing social distancing, so the lunchroom’s 9 tables, which usually holds 36, now holds 9, and after having my lunch, I got told that I was supposed to have been told not to come in early.  I snapped at the teller.  He tattled.  I got dragged into the office and got a talking to.  So, my day is not going all that good.  

Question: What is a “quarantini”?  

Answer: It’s a regular martini, only you have it at home, by yourself.  

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  1. jcas120 Volunteer

    Hello Solongago,

    I liked how Angela mentioned Brene Brown, I had to read two of her books for school and they were really interesting. If you do choose to read them I hope you find them helpful! I’m also glad you were able to push through and make it to therapy, I know many therapists are shut down right now due to the virus.

    I’m sorry that the work day afterward wasn’t so good, I feel like everyone is on edge with this pandemic! And your quarantini statement was great, we can all use one!

  2. musicislove

    Hi Solongago,

    Thank you for the update. I’m glad that your session with Angela went well today but that your lunch was stressful. If you didn’t know that you shouldn’t have been there early they shouldn’t have gotten mad, just told you so you’d know for next time. With this quarantine I think everyone is on edge right now. Looking forward to your next update and I hope your week goes well.


  3. Northlane1991 Volunteer

    Hey Solonago
    Thank you for sharing an update with us. i am glad you had a good season today. This is a really tough for many so people and it hard to figure the new challenged we are facing. Sometimes with uncertainity we react and its totally normal. Continue to share and know we all are here for you!

  4. KatherineL Volunteer

    Hey Solongago,

    Thanks for sharing an update with us. I am glad to hear you had a good session today. This is a really tough time for so many people, and it’s hard to figure out how we are supposed to navigate the new and changing mandates in response to the virus. Don’t be hard on yourself for what happened at work – you couldn’t have known and snapping is a normal response to stressful circumstances.


  5. mocha1821 Volunteer

    I’m glad that you were able to discuss these things with Angel! I’m sorry that work was frustrating. It was not your fault, how could you have known not to come in early if no one told you? Hopefully the stress levels lower a bit as people get more used to social distancing. Uncertainty is pretty high right now, but we’re all here for you! I hope your evening was better! I’ve been having some “quarawine” but I’ll have to try a “quarantini” next time!

  6. mikaylaanne11 Volunteer

    Hey solongago!

    I’m glad that you and Angela were able to have a productive chat and work through what had upset you in your last session! I just read that earlier post, so it sounds like things with Angela are back to going well. It’s understandable to have been on edge at work with all the uncertainty going on with quarantines/stay-at-home legislation/how everything is chaotic right now. I hope that you were able to move past that and are having a better evening. It seems like a good day to cuddle with some dogs!

    My roommate is a bartender, and she’s recommended “salting” the rim of your quarantini with Emergen-C 🙂

  7. Erin O'Callaghan Day Captain

    I’m glad therapy with Angela went well. I hope you are staying as safe as you can during this difficult time and that sharing here is still helpful.


  8. Jess Volunteer

    I’m glad that you were able to see Angela today and process your feelings about previous sessions. It seems like you two have a very open relationship and that is great to hear. I’m glad your session went well. I’m sorry it was a hard day at work. I think frustrations are high with the stress right now and everyone is on edge. I hope you know it wasn’t your fault that you weren’t told not to come in! Hopefully things settle down and the stress levels out. I hope you have a great remainder of your week. If you need anything at all, you know we are always here for you. Stay strong and keep fighting. <3

  9. Breanna Volunteer

    Hey Solongago,

    I’m glad you were able to discuss these things with Angela. Having a good and honest relationship with your therapist is one of the most important factors for progress and healing. I think it was really great that she offered a book suggestion (honestly, an author I will now look into and probably get a book). Vulnerability can be such a strength. And I’m sorry to hear about what happened at work. But I hope you recognize it wasn’t your fault – you couldn’t have known not to come in early. I hope things get more settled there. I hope the rest of your week goes well, and I’m looking forward to my own quarantini!!

    Sending love and support,