We are constantly bombarded with messages of sex. But it still remains a taboo topic. It is something that is used for advertising, but if you mention that you had sex, suddenly that is “TMI”.
Sex as a health topic is always up for debate. Whether you go to a Catholic school where that is not going to be talked about, or abstinence is the main route anyway, sex is talked about as if you are doing something horrible, forbidden and dirty. Your family doesn’t want to know about it, but you must pretend that your parents didn’t do it to have you. It’s there, but it’s something that has a bad connotation.
NEWSFLASH! SEX IS OKAY!
There, I said it. Many people don’t hear that often. Sex looks different for everyone. Depending on the time you start, how often you do it, what you prefer and who you do it with… you’ll never find sex being the exact same for two people. No matter what you prefer, if it is consensual, there is nothing wrong with it.
You do not need to feel shameful that you had sex, or that you enjoy it, or how you do it. Sex can be a beautiful thing and you have every right to enjoy it. Once you put that shame away, it is liberating to say “Sex is okay!” or “ I am doing nothing wrong by having sex!”
Of course there are plenty of precautions to take when having sex, but the act itself is not anything shameful. It really is okay. I promise. It is apart of our nature. But you can have sex for other reasons than to reproduce. Sex can be something that you enjoy and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
For survivors of assault, it can be very difficult to say “sex is okay!” because at some point, it was not. But survivors, just because you are a survivor, does not mean that you can never find sex enjoying again. Sex is okay. Consensual sex is okay!
So this month, and from now on, remember that having sex is okay. You are not committing a crime by simply having sex. Having sex doesn’t make you a bad person. Sex is okay!