Pretty much everyone deals with jealous, controlling or over-bearing traits of significant others from time to time, but how can you tell if your relationship is abusive or border-line abusive? It’s a difficult thing to pin down, and a lot has to do with your personal feelings, however the things in this list especially when combined can be warning signs that you are in an emotionally abusive or physically abusive relationship.
- They want to isolate you from friends or even family.
- They tend to insult or belittle you, even when “joking”.
- They blame others a lot, and often times it’s you.
- Alcohol and drug use that causes erratic behavior can be a catalyst of abuse.
- They instill fear, uneasiness or are intimidating in their speech or actions.
- They punish you or retaliate for time you spend away from them.
- They expect you to be subservient but aren’t helpful themselves.
- They are extremely jealous of your time, relationships and/or aspirations.
- They manipulate your emotions and make you feel guilty.
- They get physical. Obviously hitting someone is abusive, but physical abuse can start as intimidating posturing, grabbing or controlling your movements and space.
If you feel like any of these ring true about your relationship, please visit the link and read the more detailed descriptions of these signs. We encourage anyone who feels that they are in an abusive relationship to seek help from friends, family or the law if necessary. Often times even small signs can be a red flag for future problems, and abusers often become more intense if they feel in control, and that you will not take action. No one deserves that type of treatment.
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Find a Crisis Hotline and someone to talk to
Contact the Police in your state (if you feel you are in immediate danger, please dial 911 and find a safe place to wait for them to arrive)
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